This is a great question, that has only been exlored here lightly. I know that I am not the guy I was before cancer physically, in both apperance and in physical capabilities. I suspect were I not in the great relationship that I lucked into a couple of decades ago, that this would all be on my mind. For sure we all tell our kids and hopefully believe ourselves that it is what's inside that matters... But too often out in the real world, getting the chance to let that part of you shine is limited by superficial things.

BUT AS A GUY (sorry ladies) meeting women is always a matter of shots on a goal. If you don't put yourself out there, your mathematical probabilities are nil. So tough it up for some rejection, and one day the right one will come along. That partner is out there. Hell, I have more rough edges on me than can be counted, and I found one.... But as my wife once said she had to kiss a lot of toads before she met a prince. You likely have qualities that are someone's perfect match, so put your ego aside an take a leap. Just make sure there's a little water in the pool before you let go of the edge.