Lisa

Chemo helps the radiation work better. Most patients who get rad, get chemo too. Are you being treated at a cancer center? Do your doctors have alot of experience treating oral cancer patients?

Even with the gastric bypass, you could get whats called a j tube. That goes in right past the stomach and will give you liquid nutrition. Almost all patients who get chemo and rad have the peg tube. I currently have a combo tube called a G-J tube. Patients who only get radiation usually have an easier time of it and dont usually get the peg tube. There is always a temporary tube that goes in your nose if you need one towards the end of treatment. So dont worry there are things out there to help you.

I hope you are able to eat right now after having the stomach surgery. How long ago was that? Being treated with rads can make the weight melt right off which is NOT a good thing. It means you arent getting proper nutrition and that means its going to catch up with you and down the road you wont feel very good. Try to eat what you want right now so you have no regrets or cravings when your sense of taste changes.

Im sorry to hear about your brother and your mom's reaction to the loss. Losing a child is something I couldnt even imagine. Im sure it wasnt easy on you or your father either.

After all this is over you might be able to whistle again. Its funny the little things we notice. I remember the first time I had OC, my cheek was swollen and I lost my dimple. I also could barely smile. I did regain my dimple only to lose it on my third round due to a big surgery. But thats ok, Im doing good so thats whats most important.

Looking on the bright side of things, from here on out you are not alone anymore. You now have 6000+ new friends This site was the best thing I could have found when I was first diagnosed with OC. So many wonderful people from around the world embraced me and guided me thru this. They are still here helping others too! I have met some wonderful people who live in my area from this site. Hope you have some OCF members in your area.

One last thing, please make sure to call the American Cancer Society. They will help you with transportation, prescriptions, etc. They gave me a voucher for $300 to pay my prescription co-pays. The ACS also sent me a couple drivers to take me to rad. I lived 45 minutes away so I was quite surprised that anyone would drive to help me like that. The drivers are all former patients of spouses of cancer patients and are specially trained.

So far, think back to anyone who has offered to help you. Write down their name and phone numbers and start your list. At church or local organizations like vol. fire companies, lions clubs, etc they may also give you assistance.

Hope this helps.