anne,
yall are definately on a rough path but that path will still lead u to the final treatment. seems like u may have to fight gordon every step of the way, but there are many on here that had that fight and made it thru. u can do it too.
my hubbys treatments had to be discontinued for 5 weeks due to complications, they resumed right where they left off.
get the MO office to help with getting gordon a pump for the feeding tube, it can be hooked up during the night and feed him alot of nutrition.
good luck sweetie, my thoughts are with u.