I sure didn't find radiation worse than the surgery. It is very different for each person. Do not prejudge it. Perhaps you will sail right through it - many people drive themselves to each appointment and I know of some who have worked almost straight through.

Stage IV is just a number - like weight. That is one of the wonderful things about head and neck cancers - each patient has their own course which may bear some similarities to another persons path, but each person's body is so unique that no one can fully anticipate how good or bad it will be.

Try to stay positive, and don't assume the worst. Try to find something in each and every day that makes that day special and puts a smile on your face. I have often said that cancer steals too much time from us - do not give it any more than it absolutely has to have - certainly do not give it all of 2009!! Look for those special moments in each day that make life truly worth living.

Scared is very very normal and that is where we fit into your life. We are here for you. Will not not push aside your fears or not want to talk about them. Post often, lend support where you can - you are in the right place and Thank God for the computer!

Donna