Lottie, have you felt comfortable in talking to your husband about what YOU feel?
One thing my husband feared the most was being treated "different." Although he became a cancer patient, he mostly still wanted to be "Mike". "Mike" the husband who deals with spousal moodiness and wants to comfort his wife. Mike the "Dad" that helps fix problems. Mike the "friend" to his buddies that visited and they could cuss and complain about the Cleveland Browns.
He did not want anyone to put on a face or a front. Yes, he needed care, and compassion, but he needed to keep his identity as well. And that meant seeing the good and the bad that we all go through. Admitting that I was scared. Or wanting to cry. Or ashamed to be so petty as to wish I could get away and get a pedicure. It took me a while to learn this. But it seemed to give my husband relief for me to be myself and honest and open.