Cheryl, I don't really see your ranting at all. I hear you asking for help. I used the term spirituality as opposed to religion for a reason. It doesn't have to be religious as much as just processing beliefs when dealing with a terminal condition other than just life itself. Your husband is really struggling right now and needs some help. I don't know that he wants any and that's ok too.

How about you? Could you benefit from speaking with a professional? What you are currently facing is something that few can ever understand. The stress from it all is so hard on the body and mind.

Do either of you have family in the area?

I totally understand not wanting to leave him alone. You should address this and find a way to get a release from it evn if only a few hours a week.


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