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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Eileen,
Did my wife solicit your help? Sounds like it. I had a client/friend of ours come in my office today and saw Lamont and started talking about what a sweet dog this and mannered dog that and how well he gets along with Buddy and on and on. After threatening her with a huge IRS debt, she finally confessed Jo had asked her to talk to me. Man all the stops have been pulled on this one. The only one who hasn't ganged up on me (yet) is her Mom. Probably saving her till tomorrow.
And yes 2 dogs = twice the work of 1 dog IMO.
I'm a loss cause. I can't see anyway out of this without being the bad guy or loosing all marital privileges.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 | Jo and I must have gone to the same school of "Sucker in your husband 101" cuz we have 3 cats just because of my cajoling. Only Jo must have gotten all A's in her class! How's her sciatica, by the way? And give a big hug to your newest dog from us! Heheeeee Jane (and Dick)
Husband: 3 SCC gum and cheek cancers 2002, 2005, 2006: surgery only. Scans clear after removal of small, well differentiated, non-invasive cancers. No radiation. 4th SCC lip diagnosed 4/13/07 - in situ, removed in biopsy. More lip removed 2/8/08 - dysplasia. 2 Biopsies 3/17/09 no cancer (lichenoids)
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Jane,
I think you mean "Sucker in your husband 401" because surely she uses advanced tactics.
Sooo yesterday, knowing that I was lost cause, I decided to try to salvage something out of the deal so I wrote an Agreement saying in exchange for agreeing to keep Lamont she had to agree to the following. I went on to list 7 terms including things like, She agreed that Lamont was hers; She had to walk him EARLY in the am and LATE at night; She had to take him to the vet, etc and I threw in one that said She had to do everything I told her. I wish I had saved a copy because it went into the trash right after she found that term.
So here it is 8 am Thursday, no Agreement and both dogs have been walked, pee'd and pooped and are romping in my office and princess is still asleep. Now I wonder how I can come out of this with any dignity.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: May 2008 Posts: 357 | Forget the dignity - it's not all that it's cracked up to be. Have a welcome-home party for Lamont. While you're at it, make your wife breakfast in bed ... after you've done early duty, of course.
Happy Easter to Jo's Honey Bunny -
Marlene
Marginal mandibulectomy 6/17/08 resulted in DX of Stage I SCC - gingiva (3 mm) right mandible, buccal side. Clear margins. Occasional social drinker. Smoked last cigarette in 1979. Clear pet: 12/08; 7/20/09. Yay!
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Surprise of my life. Yesterday the person that was supposed to take Lamont showed up a few hours late with his GF and Jo had a long talk with them and decided to let Lamont go. I had nothing to do with the conversation or her decision. In fact I questioned her twice if she was sure she wanted to do this.
Lamont is type of dog that will be happy with anyone so he'll be just fine and he has a new found brother just about his age to play and grow up with. He promised to bring Lamont to the dog park so Jo can see him. Then Lamont and his new owners left and she cried for the next 2 hours.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | So what was Buddy's take on this now that he has lost his canine friend and has to deal with 7 cats by himself?
I hope Lamont enjoys his new home. I'm certain your wife will keep an eye on him. Should we start a pool on how many weeks it will be before the next stray wanders across your wife's path?
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | As long as the winner donates the winnings to OCF. I think it would be a quick turnaround.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 | Hugs to Jo, on the trade-off for Lamont, but knowing Jo, I am sure these folks got grilled before Lamont ever left your property! I wish everyone was more like you two re: animals! Jane 
Husband: 3 SCC gum and cheek cancers 2002, 2005, 2006: surgery only. Scans clear after removal of small, well differentiated, non-invasive cancers. No radiation. 4th SCC lip diagnosed 4/13/07 - in situ, removed in biopsy. More lip removed 2/8/08 - dysplasia. 2 Biopsies 3/17/09 no cancer (lichenoids)
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Joined: May 2008 Posts: 357 | Ok - Lamont's gone, but that doesn't let you off the hook for making breakfast in bed for your wife. I give you 3 weeks before you get another sad in your household.
Marlene
Marginal mandibulectomy 6/17/08 resulted in DX of Stage I SCC - gingiva (3 mm) right mandible, buccal side. Clear margins. Occasional social drinker. Smoked last cigarette in 1979. Clear pet: 12/08; 7/20/09. Yay!
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | OK we have 3 weeks down. Anyone else?
BTW the prize will be Jo's next "project".
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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