#90923 03-01-2009 05:08 PM | Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 31 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | OP  Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 31 | Hi everyone,
It's a year and a week since mum (Brenfran) passed, and what a trying year it's been!
I'm past the point of grief now, and am coming to terms with the fact she's gone. It's not always easy, but my partner and friends went out of the way to make last weekend easier for me. I just moved, so was going through my boxes that needed unpacking and came across some pictures of mum. Had a little weep, laughed a little and had a glass of wine in her memory.
Thank you all for the support you gave her when she needed you, and a special thank you to Donna for the support you gave me right afterwards, even though we'd never met.
Take care everyone, stay strong. Mum is watching over each and every one of you.
Sue
xx
Mum - sick as a dog, see her sig.
Dad - diagnosed with throat cancer late 2007.
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Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 | Hi Sue and thanks for the memories of your mum. I remember her traveling from UK to see you in California, and if memory serves, you all had a wonderful visit together. She was always so supportive of everyone in here, and we hope we were the same for her...she is missed. Thanks for checking in. Warmly, JaneP 
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Husband: 3 SCC gum and cheek cancers 2002, 2005, 2006: surgery only. Scans clear after removal of small, well differentiated, non-invasive cancers. No radiation. 4th SCC lip diagnosed 4/13/07 - in situ, removed in biopsy. More lip removed 2/8/08 - dysplasia. 2 Biopsies 3/17/09 no cancer (lichenoids)
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Sue
Thank you for posting. Your mom was a wonderful courageous woman. She is missed not only by her family but also by the many OCF members she touched. Wishing you well with your new home.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | It was so moving to read a post from you about your Mom. She was an inspiration to me and a lot of others. Good luck in your new home and may life be good to you.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | My God. I can't believe a year has gone by already since we lost you mom. She was such a positive person and such an influence on many of us. We have missed her. She loved her travels - seeing you and visiting others - and I hope to be like her - enjoy each day and new faces and places right tot he end.
The streets of Heaven are far too crowded with our OCF Angels.
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 104 | Thanks for posting Sue, good to hear you are doing well. I was always inspired by your Mom's posts, such a live each day attitude she had. I think I was as happy as she was that she was able to make her visit to you in the U.S.
All the best for your future.
Joan
Caregiver to husband Dx. Stage 4 SCC of gingiva with 3 nodes pos. Partial mandiblectomy with bone graft from iliac crest Dec. 2006. IMRT x30, Cisplatin x3. Completed Tx. March 15, 2007. Osteonecrosis & removal of graft & plate Oct. 2007. Recurrence of SCC Dec. 2007. Deceased Jan. 17, 2008.
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