#84565 11-21-2008 07:50 AM | Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 41 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | OP  Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 41 | dear friends of my mother,
first of all i want to thank you all for your love, support, precious advice and interest all this hard time. this site is a heaven for people who suffer for this terrible disease, where you can find friends, a shoulder to lean on, the advice of a doctor the strength to carry on. all this time mom has fought really hard to make it and she never complained or gave up. Up to the last minute she was standing still, doing all the housework and she was giving us hope and strength.
but unfortunately on Saturday a vessel on an vein near the carotid broke and leaded to excess bleeding. noone ever told us that this was a very strong possibility sth like that to happen. and she was all alone and when i found her she has already lost a lot of blood. next day a second bleeding when they tried to change the tracheostomy leaded to her loss.
please i didn;t know that a bleeding is very common in that cases, so if you have beloved people that you take care of please don;t leave them alone.
thank you all again for your love, you are all very special people an d i hope to all of you to be the winners and to beat that shitty thing.
god bless you all and never give up hope! and please always take a second opinion, i was never told the whole story!
thank you, sophia;s daughter.
sophia
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Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 706 | I am so sorry for your loss. I'll be sending prayers for you and your family.
Sue
cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.
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Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 3,552 | Dear Sophia,
words can't express my sorrow at your mothers loss and I extend my deepest condolences and prayers for her, you and the rest of your family.
It is always tragic when we lose another member of our community.
Gary Allsebrook
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Dx 11/22/02, SCC, 6 x 3 cm Polypoid tumor, rt tonsil, Stage III/IVA, T3N0M0 G1/2
Tx 1/28/03 - 3/19/03, Cisplatin ct x2, IMRT, bilateral, with boost, x35(69.96Gy)
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"You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes" (James 4:14 NIV)
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Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 681 | Sophia,
Thank you for lettting us know about your mother. My deepest sympathy to your family. Your mother presented a dignified acceptance of the ravages of this horrid affliction. She wrote that the medical situation there is difficult so perhaps that is why you did not know what to expect. Even when one is receiving the best of care the patient, family and friends do not always get the most comprehensive information. Often we just want to get better and don't ask about what is down the road or the doctors only concentrate on doing their particular task at that time.
Malka
SCC stage II Partial mandibulectomy w. neck dissection- July 2005. Renal cancer w. partial nephrectomy-Jan 2004. Breast cancer discovered in routine mammogram. Successful lumpectomy, sentinal nodes clear, RT only-2008 Reconstruction of mandible w fibula free flap-Jan 09. TORS removal of begnin pappiloma from esophagus-2010. Masectomy,rt breast 2013.
Support OCF
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Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Sohpie's daughter,
I am truly sorry that your mother lost her battle with this horrible disease. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | Hi Sophia's daughter. We communicated several times when she had her last surgery this past summer. I am so sorry to hear of her passing. I am so sorry that she had to endure what she did at the end of her life.She was a very spunky upbeat and incredibly strong woman. I can only imagine what she was like in person.
You were blessed with a wonderful mother in your life and her memory will be with you always. I wish you could have had her with you longer. She is in a better place now without pain or struggle. She is looking out for you.
Much love to you and your family.
Kate
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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Im very sorry for your loss. Its never easy to lose a parent. May you find comfort in the good memories you shared.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 211 Gold Member (200+ posts) | | Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 211 | Dear Sophia's Daughter,
Your mother was an amazingly compassionate and strong woman. She was so supportive of others on this board. When She hadn't posted for a while I sent her a private message last month and her reply let me know what a difficult time she was having but that she wasn't giving up hope. I recall reading about others on this board who's loved ones bled at the end so I hope some of them will contact you.
Warmly, Sohpie
Sophie T.
CG to husband: SCC Stage 4, T4, N1, M0; non-smoker and very light social drinker; HPV+
induction chemo begun 7/07; chemo/radiation ended 10/10, first cat scan clear; scan on 5/9/08 clear, scan on 10/08 clear; scan 1/09 clear; scan 1/10 clear; passed away July 2, 2016
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Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 11 | Sophie,
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I know that you will miss her. However, I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that she is at peace now.
Les
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Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 1 | This is my first night on the forum. I have a dear friend, Becky, who had her third surgery regarding her oc. She had a radical neck sugery to get as much out as they could. I'm not even aware of her stage, but was told it is an aggressive cancer. She had radiation starting in April, but it didn't prevent the cancer from returning. What are some options for her? Any input would be greatly appreciated. | | |
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