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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | So very sorry to hear of this world's loss in your Dad's passing. He sounds like a wonderful man who was very fortunate to have you for a daughter. What a beautiful post and tribute to your Dad. We grieve with you.
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 528 | Dear Laura
What a moving and loving post. I send my condolences and thank you for telling us about the gifts your father's cancer brought to your family.
With love from Helen
RHTonsil SCC Stage IV tx completed May 03
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Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 2,606 Likes: 2 | Laura,
First, I want you to know how truly sorry I am to hear of your father's passing. I found great joy in your post, though, to re-live the love you two found and shared to the end as I read your post. I remember too well most of the year 2000 taking care of my mother. There were times that it was so tough yet the joy we shared, the love that we shared can never be replaced. I, too, found it an honor to be at that place at that time to give back to the one who gave so much to me all my life.
I have found over the years that my pain was slowly replaced by the fondest of memories and still chuckle at some of the silliness we shared for 9 painful months.
I really know what you mean about letting the spirit out of the house and the angels he was seeing towards the end. You were indeed very special to have been a part of that and I am really glad that he had the opportunity to know you as a parent and a daughter.
Best Wishes,
Ed
SCC Stage IV, BOT, T2N2bM0
Cisplatin/5FU x 3, 40 days radiation
Diagnosis 07/21/03 tx completed 10/08/03
Post Radiation Lower Motor Neuron Syndrome 3/08.
Cervical Spinal Stenosis 01/11
Cervical Myelitis 09/12
Thoracic Paraplegia 10/12
Dysautonomia 11/12
Hospice care 09/12-01/13.
COPD 01/14
Intermittent CHF 6/15
Feeding tube NPO 03/16
VFI 12/2016
ORN 12/2017
Cardiac Event 06/2018
Bilateral VFI 01/2021
Thoracotomy Bilobectomy 01/2022
Bilateral VFI 05/2022
Total Laryngectomy 01/2023
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | So sorry that this cancer claimed another much loved person. I hope the garden continues on.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 598 | Laura -- Your tribute moved me deeply, and what others have said is true -- your father was very fortunate to have such a loving daughter and caregiver. Every time you go into the garden -- any garden -- you will be carrying an important part of him with you. Condolences and prayers to you and your family.
Jeff
SCC Right BOT Dx 3/28/2007
T2N2a M0G1,Stage IVa
Bilateral Neck Dissection 4/11/2007
39 x IMRT, 8 x Cisplatin Ended 7/11/07
Complete response to treatment so far!!
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Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 79 | I am sorry to hear of your loss. Your tribute to your father shows the depth of your love for him.
* Root for Joe *
Sister of Joe (43, non-smoker/chewer; occ. drinker). Mouth problem 3/07. Diag with Stage I 6/07. Diag with Stage IV 9/07. In EPOC at Univ of Chicago. Cisplatin/cetuximab 1/wk x 8. Then, IMRT 5x/wk x 7 and weekly chemo. Done 12/21/07. Looks good as of 4/08, 7/08, 8/08, 1/09.
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Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 2,019 | Laura, That was a beautiful remembrance of your Dad. My Dad died last year and we had also become closer towards the end--though not as free as you two were at saying "I love you" still. It's wonderful that you reached that degree of closeness. I hate that this cancer took him but I'm so glad he went peacefully with his family by his side. And each year when you plant your garden, he'll be there with you (I know this because my grandmother was a gardener and I always think of her when I am in my garden).
Nelie
SCC(T2N0M0) part.glossectomy & neck dissect 2/9/05 & 2/25/05.33 IMRT(66 Gy),2 Cisplatin ended 06/03/05.Stage I breast cancer treated 2/05-11/05.Surgery to remove esophageal stricture 07/06, still having dilatations to keep esophagus open.Dysphagia. "When you're going through hell, keep going"
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Laura, you did a great job on that post, but I feel so terrible because you lost your Dad. You were such a caring daughter and helped him fight it all the way. I am proud to have been a part of your, your Step mom and most of all your Dad,s life. Stop by and let us know how you are doing from time to time. Your Buddy, Jim
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 580 | Laura,
My heartfelt condolences and prayers to you and your family for the loss of your father.
As many have already posted, he was lucky to have loved ones to help him like you.
I have come to know you as a strong and compassionate person.
I hope you will continue to drop in and offer advice and experience to those who find themself here.
All the best.
Cheers!
Mike
Dentist since 1995, 12 year Cancer Survivor, Father, Husband, Thankful to so many who supported me on my journey so far, and more than happy to comfort a friend.
Live, Laugh, Love & Learn.
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Joined: May 2008 Posts: 357 | What a beautiful tribute to your dad and the legacy he left you. Cancer is a sneaky beast and I'm sure each of us feels the loss when one of us passes on - I know I do. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Marlene
Marginal mandibulectomy 6/17/08 resulted in DX of Stage I SCC - gingiva (3 mm) right mandible, buccal side. Clear margins. Occasional social drinker. Smoked last cigarette in 1979. Clear pet: 12/08; 7/20/09. Yay!
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