We are coming up on the 3 year anniversery of losing my mom unexpextedly. I still deal with this on a daily basis, and I thought with time it got easier. I am very close to my dad,(we live next door)and we talk numerous times a day. He is so alone and sad most of the time and I really dont know what to do. We have spoke to the family doctor about taking something for depression, but on both occasions he has wanted us to hold off, because of other health issues and he thought with time it would get better. He constantly talks about just wanting to go be with my mom, I know he misses her but what about me and my kids. he is their only granparent and they need their granpa they are 1 & 8 .I keep reminding him of this, but I dont know what else i can do. They had so many dreams and they were college sweethearts. They did not deserve this. I guess what i want to know from those that have lost a loved one is there anything i can do to make it a little easier for him? hes stays busy through the summer with his golf buddies but now that it is getting cold, i can see it hitting him again. Thanks for listening.

Hi Karen,
How heartbreaking for all of you. I can't imagine spending all those years together and then not. My father-in-law is going through something similar, though his wife is now in a home for her alzheimer's issues. He will go out with some of the men he worked with for over 40yrs, but that is only once a month for lunch and much prodding from one of his friends. It's as if he can't give himself permission to have some fun. I wonder is your dad's golf buddies would consider getting together once and a while for lunch through the winter months? An old family friend, who I have always affectionately been invited to call Pop-pop lost his bride after 60 years. He changed so much after she passed. He wouldn't do anything, sat in his living room and just waited till he could be with her again. So sad.
I hope your dad can make some peace with his loss, and come back to being a part of his family. Anniveraries and holidays are all so difficult.
Donna