#52314 10-24-2007 03:46 AM | Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | OP  Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 | My mom went through extensive surgery 2 years ago and came out of it cancer free. I knew it would be rough for a while but i guess i didn't grasp just how hard it would be and not just the physical aspect either. she was so tired and she thought she looked ugly but she really didn't and no matter what we did we couldn't seem to get through to her. two weeks after her surgery we had to evacuate to texas when katrina hit and that set her healing back really far. Even though it was only two weeks we were gone when we got back there were no doctors to be found anywhere. my mom is a really strong person who holds the family together. however we got through and shes still here and were still together thats what matters.now two years later were still gluing peices back together.
Let me be the lender of strength, wisdom, and heart. Let me be the one who helps you spread your wings.
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#52315 10-24-2007 03:57 AM | Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 939 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 939 | Dragon,
Can't imagine what it was like dealing with this disease and a major hurricane. I definitely worried about the same thing this summer while Bill was undergoing treatments here in Florida. It must have been awful! Glad that your Mom seems to be doing well and none the worse for her experience. Deb
Deb..caregiver to husband, age 63 at diagnosis, former smoker who quit in 1997.
DIAGNOSIS: 6/26/07 SCC right tonsil/BOT T4N0M0
TREATMENT START: 8/9/07 cisplatin/taxol X 7..IMRT twice daily X 31.5.
TREATMENT END: 10/1/07
PEG OUT: 1/08
PORT OUT: 4/09
FOLLOWUP: Now only annual exams. ALL CLEAR!
Passed away 1/7/17 RIP Bill
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#52316 10-24-2007 02:58 PM | Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | | OP Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 | Thank you for the thought and i am glad to hear that you guys are doing well.Dragon
Let me be the lender of strength, wisdom, and heart. Let me be the one who helps you spread your wings.
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#52317 10-24-2007 03:03 PM | Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | | Platinum Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 | Dear Dragon - We never understand why sometimes adversity hits some people multiple times. However, it seems like your Mom faced it down and came thru it all. I hope the doctors have returned by now and your Mom continues with regular check-ups. May she continue to get good news at her doctor visits. Keep in touch with the OCF forum. Warmly, JaneP 
Husband: 3 SCC gum and cheek cancers 2002, 2005, 2006: surgery only. Scans clear after removal of small, well differentiated, non-invasive cancers. No radiation. 4th SCC lip diagnosed 4/13/07 - in situ, removed in biopsy. More lip removed 2/8/08 - dysplasia. 2 Biopsies 3/17/09 no cancer (lichenoids)
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#52318 10-24-2007 05:17 PM | Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | | OP Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 | JaneP-Thank you so much for such a nice reply. I know that i am very lucky to have such a strong mom and i will never take that for granted. I wish you and your husband all the best in health and spirit. again thank you for the reply  Dragon
Let me be the lender of strength, wisdom, and heart. Let me be the one who helps you spread your wings.
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#52319 10-24-2007 07:37 PM | Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 | Hi Dragon,
As a mother myself of seven daughters, I felt really proud when I was reading your posts! Good for you for being such a great care giver for your mom when you're so young yourself. I am battling my second round of this cancer and have a daugther your age. Her name is Mercedes and she turned 17 in September. She was 12 when I had my first cancer. You sound alot like her, have the same type of feelings that I know she has. At times I look at her and see the worry on her face and I hate what cancer has done to her. BUT, I'm stil here, which is the all important thing and I intend to stay her for years longer.
Good luck to you and your family!
Minnie
SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.
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#52320 10-24-2007 09:10 PM | Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | | OP Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 | Minnie
Wow you are truly an amazing person as I am sure your daughters are too. You have been through alot and you never get all good with no bad but when you do get some bad is when it is the best time to rely on your family and you'll see you guys will make it through. As for your daughter I am sure she is feeling something simalr to what I felt and sometimes the only thing you can do is listen and she may not even talk but still listen. everyone deals in there own way with me I didn't talk and then just lost it when no one was around.
I think that was by far the scariest thing because I thought that if I couldn't hold it together how could I hold my mom together. We all at one point or another take care of are parents but we expect to be grown-up by then and have some sort of emotional grounding I guess. You can count on her as I am sure you know and all of your familay and throught it all you find that as long as you guys can smile at one another no matter how bad it gets you guys will be just fine.
Well that was kinda long winded but I hope it helps a little. and if your daughter ever needs someone to talk to or not talk to :)just tell her to message me its good to know your not alone esecially when your lonely.
Good luck and well wishes to you and your famialy
Dragon
Let me be the lender of strength, wisdom, and heart. Let me be the one who helps you spread your wings.
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#52321 10-25-2007 04:46 AM | Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | | Platinum Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 | Dragon - Your Mom raised a thoughtful and wonderful young man. Our thoughts and prayers are REALLY with both of you! Hugs, JaneP
Husband: 3 SCC gum and cheek cancers 2002, 2005, 2006: surgery only. Scans clear after removal of small, well differentiated, non-invasive cancers. No radiation. 4th SCC lip diagnosed 4/13/07 - in situ, removed in biopsy. More lip removed 2/8/08 - dysplasia. 2 Biopsies 3/17/09 no cancer (lichenoids)
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#52322 10-25-2007 03:38 PM | Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | | OP Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 43 | Tehee I kinda of forgot that dragon can go male or female. I am a daughter. Sorry for that I always think of dragon as a symbol for courage. Thank you so much for the compliment it really does mean so much to me. Our thoughts and prayers are with you just as much. May you have the best of luck and the greatest of strength. Dragon
Let me be the lender of strength, wisdom, and heart. Let me be the one who helps you spread your wings.
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#52323 10-27-2007 02:51 PM | Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | | Platinum Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 388 | Ack ... I saw later that you are a young LADY - my apologies, and at least it brought you a laugh. HUGS to you! Warmly, JaneP
Husband: 3 SCC gum and cheek cancers 2002, 2005, 2006: surgery only. Scans clear after removal of small, well differentiated, non-invasive cancers. No radiation. 4th SCC lip diagnosed 4/13/07 - in situ, removed in biopsy. More lip removed 2/8/08 - dysplasia. 2 Biopsies 3/17/09 no cancer (lichenoids)
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