#34009 03-27-2005 05:59 PM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 134 Gold Member (100+ posts) | OP  Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 134 | Hello Everyone,
I am sad to inform everyone in here that my mother passed away Saturday morning. She remained on hospice for 3 weeks but God finally took her out of pain. She died in peace.
I am suffering so badly right now, to the point that i am physically sick and cant sleep. Can anyone offer me any advice as to how to get through this easier? She fought for over two years with this horrible disease and lost the fight. I am so sad and this is the worst pain I have ever experienced in my life.
We are having donations to this organization instead of flowers. Please give me the name, address and information so that I can tell our funeral guests where to send the donations. My mothers name is Sandra T. The donations will be in honor of her. She and my family both wanted to support this instead of flowers.
Please get back to me via email so I can respond with further information regarding my mother.
Thank you
Stephany
Stephany.Daughter of mother who passed away 3/26/05 from Recurrent Gum Squamous Cell Carcinoma. She had 3 surgeries, and 6 weeks radiation, and then passed due to infection. I miss her very much. She was 65 years young when she passed. Love you Mom!
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#34010 03-27-2005 06:49 PM | Joined: Oct 2016 Posts: 284 Gold Member (200+ posts) | | Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2016 Posts: 284 | Stephany,
I am soooo sorry for your loss. If there is anything at all that I can do please don't hesitate to call me. Please know that your family is in my prayers.
Love,
Dani
Originally joined OCF on 12/12/03 as DaniO or Danijams
Dani-Mom SCC BOT & floor of mouth surgery-recur then surgery/rads & chemo completed 3/04
surgery 11/06 to remove dead bone & replace jaw w/ leg bone & titanium plate
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#34011 03-27-2005 08:22 PM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 134 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | OP Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 134 | Hey Danielle, Can you please email me your number again to [email protected] Thanks. How is your mom doing? I have been thinking of you two and hope she is doing well. Love, Stephanie
Stephany.Daughter of mother who passed away 3/26/05 from Recurrent Gum Squamous Cell Carcinoma. She had 3 surgeries, and 6 weeks radiation, and then passed due to infection. I miss her very much. She was 65 years young when she passed. Love you Mom!
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#34012 03-27-2005 08:45 PM | Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 3,552 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 3,552 | Stephany, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. OCF contact information is: The Oral Cancer Foundation 3419 Via Lido # 205 Newport Beach Ca. 92663 Phone: (949) 646-8000 Fax: (949) 496-3331 Email: [email protected]
Gary Allsebrook
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Dx 11/22/02, SCC, 6 x 3 cm Polypoid tumor, rt tonsil, Stage III/IVA, T3N0M0 G1/2
Tx 1/28/03 - 3/19/03, Cisplatin ct x2, IMRT, bilateral, with boost, x35(69.96Gy)
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"You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes" (James 4:14 NIV)
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#34013 03-27-2005 09:48 PM | Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,244 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,244 | Stephany,
I'm sorry that it came to this conclusion, my Dad passed away 2 weeks ago (not cancer) and I know what a big hole the loss of a parent leaves.
May your God walk by your side
Sunshine...love and hugs
Helen
SCC Base of tongue, (TISN0M0) laser surgery, 10/01 and 05/03 no clear margins. Radial free flap graft to tonsil pillar, partial glossectomy, left neck dissection 08/04
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#34014 03-28-2005 01:34 AM | Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 482 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 482 | Stephany, I was very sorry to read of your loss. When I lost my father in 1984, I was in bad shape also. The only thing I have found is that over time, you accept the loss and move on. You never stop missing them, or thinking of them, you just do it a little less each week/month/year. God bless you, your mom and your family.
Regards, Kirk Georgia
Stage IV, T1N2aM0, right tonsil primary, Tonsilectomy 11/03, 35 rad/3cisplatin chemo, right neck dissection 1/04 - 5/04.
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#34015 03-28-2005 03:33 AM | Joined: Jun 2004 Posts: 155 Senior Member (100+ posts) | | Senior Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2004 Posts: 155 | Stephany
I wish there were words or magic answers that will make this time easier. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. As Kirk said it will take time and you will never forget your Mother and all the gifts she gave you. You took wonderful care of your Mom and now just as when you are a caregiver you now have to take care of yourself. Please try your best to take a little time to relax everyday. A hot bath, a walk, and even if you can't sleep make yourself as comfortable as possible fresh sheets, plump pillows etc. and rest. Peace Denise
Caregiver Husband Bob SCC tongue t2nomo Partial Glosectomy/neck disection 6/04 rad ending 9/23/04
Osteoradio-necrosis of the Mandible (ONJ) DX 6/09 Surgery 7/2/09 mandible resection/ several teeth extracted/ neck dissection NO FLAP and aggressive antibiotic therapy.
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#34016 03-28-2005 06:03 AM | Joined: Nov 2004 Posts: 90 Senior Member (75+ posts) | | Senior Member (75+ posts)
Joined: Nov 2004 Posts: 90 | Stephany,
You were on my mind all weekend, I was wondering how your Mom was doing. I am so sorry to hear the news of her death. You have been such a great daughter and caregiver to your Mom. You are just beginning to grieve for the loss of your Mom, it's going to take time to heal from that. I know when my Mom died, the first year was the hardest for me. In my opinion, the healthiest thing you can do for yourself is let yourself grieve, cry when you need to. I read somewhere that in order to heal you need to feel. My prayers are with you and your family.
Bless you,
Shelley
Caregiver to husband, Ron. Throat cancer, Stage II. No Chemo or Surgery. Completed 35 Radiation Treatments in November 2004.
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#34017 03-28-2005 07:34 AM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 134 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | OP Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 134 | Thank you all so much for your support and prayers. Thank you also for the address to this site. I am giving all our friends and family the address and number for donations. I cant think of a better cause and my mom wanted it this way.
Helen, I am so sorry for the loss of your father. You have my most sincere condolensces. You are in my prayers.
God Bless you all.
Love
Stephany
Stephany.Daughter of mother who passed away 3/26/05 from Recurrent Gum Squamous Cell Carcinoma. She had 3 surgeries, and 6 weeks radiation, and then passed due to infection. I miss her very much. She was 65 years young when she passed. Love you Mom!
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#34018 03-28-2005 08:18 AM | Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 | Hi Stephany,
I was afraid when you didn't post for a bit that your mom had entered her final stages. I'm grateful her passing was peaceful for her and for you. Now you have to find your way through the grieving process and you will do it with the same strength you found to help your mother for the past two years. Bless you Stephany.
Minnie
SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.
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