Hi Veronica,
I totally understand where you are coming from. My Mum moved in with me and my family last Christmas. She had huge tumors on her left cheek and inside her mouth. Unfortunately due to the spread of the cancer she was not a candidate for surgery and while they agreed to do chemo they didn't expect her tp live past May. This is a woman who never smoked or drank, was healthy as a horse and the most generous and kind person. She has had 6 rounds of chemo, lost 30 pounds despite the feeding tube and has amazed the doctors to no end. The tumors have shrunk to almost nothing and they are calling it a miracle!

Caring for her is both exhausting and emotional. there are days I want to cry and days I want to scream. But all in all i remind myself that this time with her is a gift. A gift to say and do all the things I never would have been able to say if she had been taken from me suddenly. I remain compassionate but encourage her to be as independant as possible. It becomes very easy for everyone to do everything for them but not always such a good thing. Depression and feeling sorry for oneself is normal but I remind my Mum that she is a survivor and has already beaten the odds just by being alive!!
We live every day to the fullest, watch great movies, laugh and cry.
All the best to you and your Mom my thoughts and prayers are with you!!
Suzanne

I am called a miracle patient , a survivor of survivors and yet I feel it's just my determination to live. Good luck to your mums and may they ve strong and hardheraded like me.