#2387 05-01-2004 04:13 PM | Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 116 Gold Member (100+ posts) | OP  Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 116 | Hello, all,
I've been away from the boards for a while because of the agressive nature of Scott's last recurrence (metastatic to the skin on his neck/face).
I am so saddened to report that he passed away this morning. I am unable to think straight enough to get into the details now, but in short, two weeks ago his third feeding tube in 5 months failed, and we decided to stop life-prolonging measures. His body was tired; at least we diverted a seemingly set path of carotid rupture. He did not want to die that way nor put me through that kind of castostrophic event.
I was holding his hand when he breathed his last breath and his soul left his failed body at 5:40 a.m. My daughters and I had our time to say good bye over the last few weeks, but our pain is still great. We will forever love and miss him.
My heart is so heavy. I feel such loss that this cancer took him away.
Christine
Wife of Scott: SCC, Stage I retromolar 10/02--33 rad; recurrence 10/03--Docetaxol, 5FU, Cisplatin; 1/04 radical right neck, hard palate, right tonsil; recurrence 2/04--mets to skin and neck; Xeloda and palliative care 3/04-4/04; died 5/01/04.
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#2388 05-01-2004 04:51 PM | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 | Christine, I hope you can feel the love and prayers of everyone who reads of your loss. I hope you can feel what is in my heart, because I simply do not have words to express my sympathy for your pain.
Joanna | | |
#2389 05-01-2004 06:14 PM | Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 189 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 189 | Dear Christine,
Bless you honey, and your family at this time.
One of the worst parts of this cancer, I think, is the unpredictability of what might happen. You were thrown into a situation that never gave you time to come to grips with reality.
I'm so sorry.
Love,
Mandi
Husband diagnosed with stage III tonsil and floor of mouth cancer in August 2002. Three rounds of chemo/42 RAD treatments. Upper right lung lobectomy in March 2003. (Benign)
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#2390 05-01-2004 06:21 PM | Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 | Dear Christine,
I'm so sorry.
Love,
Minnie
SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.
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#2391 05-01-2004 10:04 PM | Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,244 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,244 | Dear Christine
you know my thoughts and prayers are always with with you all, now and forever...
Love and Hugs
Helen
SCC Base of tongue, (TISN0M0) laser surgery, 10/01 and 05/03 no clear margins. Radial free flap graft to tonsil pillar, partial glossectomy, left neck dissection 08/04
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#2392 05-01-2004 11:37 PM | Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 143 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 143 | Dear Christine, there are no words that I have found to truly convey deepest sympathy. I lost my beloved Packer suddenly in Feb, no chance to say goodbye.But, I truly know your heartache, it feels like part of you has been ripped away, and you most likely are still in shock, I know I still can`t believe he`s not here in body, but he sticks with me and guides me...........You and i and all those left behind have to carry on the fight to stop this horrid disease........My Love and Prayers are with you and your`s..........Love and Hugs, Dee | | |
#2393 05-02-2004 01:29 AM | Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 156 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 156 | Sending you love and prayers........Sabrina | | |
#2394 05-02-2004 07:12 AM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 | Dear Christine, My thoughts and prayers are with you.....God Bless, Carol
Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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#2395 05-02-2004 08:17 AM | Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 164 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 164 | I know it's small comfort right now, but he is out of pain and suffering now. My prayer is for your comfort and peace for you and your family during this very difficult time. My heart is heavy for you too. God Bless you!
Lynn
Stage 3, N0, M0 oral tongue cancer survivor, 85-90% of tongue removed, neck disection, left tonsil removed, chemo/radiation treatments, surgery 11/03, raditation ended 1/04, lung mets discovered 4/04,
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#2396 05-02-2004 09:38 AM | Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 139 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 139 | Dear Christine,
Thank you for sharing your loss with us. Know that you are in our prayers. Words just can't convey how much we care for you and pray for your peace.
Love you and God Bless
Judy U
Judy U
Stage I SCC floor of mouth, left radical neck dissection 8/03
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