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02-17-2020 04:44 AM 02-17-2020 04:44 AM
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Yorba Linda, CA CynthiaD OP
Joined: Feb 2020
Yorba Linda, CA
Hello everyone. I joined because my long-time partner (> 30 years) is in treatment for oral cancer. I don't know all the abbreviations, etc. but I'll describe his situation.
His name is Hank. He is 76 years old; I'm 71. In October he went for his yearly dental visit, and complained that he had a sore on his upper gum that was not healing. The dentist, for unknown reasons, thought he might have an abscess on his tooth and referred him to an endodontist. It took a month to get seen (!!). The endodontist tested his tooth and did not find any problems, but referred him to an ENT for a biopsy. The biopsy showed he had squamous cell cancer. He has never smoked a cigarette in his life, but he did have chronic gingivitis, which I have heard is a risk factor.
To make a long story short, he had surgery on Jan. 30 and is in recovery now. They removed a good portion of the upper left roof of his mouth, including 4 teeth. To close the hole, they grafted some tissue from his leg. They also removed all the lymph nodes in his neck on the left side. The lymph nodes showed no signs of cancer, but the tissue removed from the mouth showed that the cancer had spread to the bone, so it was classified as Stage IV.
Currently, he is at home -- he's been out of the hospital for a little more than a week. Damn, it amazes me to write that, as it seems more like a year! He is on soft foods. His mouth is swollen, of course, but the swelling goes down a little every day. The worst part right now is the graft, which hangs down in his mouth and makes it hard to understand him, and makes it harder for him to swallow. Supposedly it too will shrink down somewhat.
A complication is that he has type 2 diabetes, which means he should not have too many carbs. Unfortunately, it's hard to find soft foods that have low carbs! Right now he is pureeing veggies in the blender and he got some pre-cooked bacon that he can heat up in the microwave, I am getting him baby meat, and he is experimenting with pureeing chicken. We'll see how that goes. I am worried because he seems to be losing weight. He's lost about 10 pounds since he went in the hospital. He is not overweight; he's 5'11" and 154 pounds right now. So I'm constantly trying to figure out how to get him the calories he needs.
The surgeon (at UCI Medical, a very good hospital) is recommending he have 6 weeks of radiation treatment because of the stage IV. He is terrified of this and doesn't know if he wants to have it.
Anyway, that's about it. That's where we are. I am joining this forum because I feel like I just feel so alone with this. I can see this is going to be a long struggle. I am happy that there is such a forum!
Jan 16th, 2020