#17098 02-21-2005 03:08 AM | Joined: Jun 2004 Posts: 85 Senior Member (75+ posts) | OP  Senior Member (75+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2004 Posts: 85 | Dear All,
I hate to write this but David died Wednesday February 16th at 1:30am.
The tumor had grown considerably and became very aggressive. He had some episodes of blacking out, so we felt that the tumor was compromising some artery etc. We stopped chemo on the 8th and he was gone a week later. He was alert, talking to friends and family that flew in to see him, but them slipped into a sleep and then coma on the 12th. At that point I knew that I could handle this stage and kept him at home instead of admitting him to Hospice. The nurses came in to help me when needed and he died peacefully and WITHOUT pain.
I am numb. I still can't get my head wrapped around the fact that he is gone. I think this a a blessing at the moment. The funeral was Saturday and it was well attended and it gives me joy to see how loved he was.
So dear ones, we never thought we would be here. Right up to last Tuesday, we still thought we would beat this. David was optomistic through to the end. He was the love of my life and I will miss him, but I won't miss this disease.
I pray for you all that a cure is just around the corner. I pray that you all may endure, and fight the good fight until those magical words are spoken, "we have a solution for oral cancer!"
Thank you for this wonderful site. I have requested that all memorials go to the Oral Cancer Fund or the local Hospice. You can find his OBIT under ajc.com/obits ( David Regts)
Love,
Brenda Regts
T1N0M0 Partial Glossectomy 2/04, Recurrance w/ another P.G. 5/04. IMRTx33 7/04-9/04. T2N2M0 recurrance in throat, 11/04.
2nd tumor 1/06/05, Chemo 1/11-05 Died 02-16-05 Wife: Brenda
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#17099 02-21-2005 04:10 AM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 | Brenda, my heart goes out to you. I, too, pray for a cure to this dreaded disease. I know you take comfort that David passed peacefully. My thoughts are with you. God Bless and Take Care, Carol
Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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#17100 02-21-2005 05:12 AM | Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 3,552 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 3,552 | Dear Brenda,
I am deeply sorry and heart broken to hear of your loss.
David always had kind words of encouragement for others seeking help here and he will be sorely missed.
Love, Gary & Leah Allsebrook
Gary Allsebrook
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Dx 11/22/02, SCC, 6 x 3 cm Polypoid tumor, rt tonsil, Stage III/IVA, T3N0M0 G1/2
Tx 1/28/03 - 3/19/03, Cisplatin ct x2, IMRT, bilateral, with boost, x35(69.96Gy)
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"You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes" (James 4:14 NIV)
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#17101 02-21-2005 05:45 AM | Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,627 | Dear Brenda,
I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how you feel and pray that you will have the support to move through this.
Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you and your family.
Minnie
SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.
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#17102 02-21-2005 06:19 AM | Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 108 | Dear Brenda; Even as a fairly recent member of this forum, it became obvious to me that David had a heart of fire for this particular cause we share. I send you my deepest sympathy in your loss of a wonderful partner, but also a huge thank you for the sharing and support you and David offered to so many others.
It's in that ability to give, to add to the world, that when we leave our passing is significant. David was, and will continue to be a significant person, with those who knew him for a long time and for those of us who shared a more brief touch with his Good Life.
May the fair warm winds of comfort surround you and your family.
Blessings, Fran
SCC Base of tongue diag. April 04 Stage IV, mets to rt. neck multiple nodes 35 rads+8 boosts First recurrence Jan05. Rt.rad neck dissection Feb02/05. Recurred with bone mets in neck July 05.
Committed to survival with dignity.
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#17103 02-21-2005 06:21 AM | Joined: May 2003 Posts: 928 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: May 2003 Posts: 928 | Dear Brenda
Please accept our sincerest condolences.
You both fought so hard. and were so generous in sharing your story. Our hearts go out to you and your family.
We just have to find a cure for this bloody disease.
Marica
Caregiver to husband Pete, Dx 4/03 SCC Base of Tongue Stage IV. Chemo /Rad no surgery. Treatment finished 8/03. Doing great!
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#17104 02-21-2005 07:01 AM | Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 837 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 837 | Brenda,
I'm so sorry to hear this news -- David's posts were so inspiring and he clearly provided such a positive outlook here.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
Cathy
Tongue SCC (T2M0N0), poorly differentiated, diagnosed 3/89, partial glossectomy and neck dissection 4/89, radiation from early June to late August 1989
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#17105 02-21-2005 07:09 AM | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 | Dear Brenda,
I am very sad to hear of David's passing. May your memories of happy years before cancer lessen your sorrow. We grieve for you.
Joanna | | |
#17106 02-21-2005 07:52 AM | Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 153 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 153 | Dear Brenda,
it's sad. thankfully David had your support and love. you all did your best.
hopefully a cure will be available someday soon.
sincerely,
larry bliven | | |
#17107 02-21-2005 08:04 AM | Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Dear Brenda,
As usual, I am at a loss for words. Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your loved one. Try to remember the wonderful times you had together to help you through your grief.
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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