| | Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 875 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) |  "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 875 | David: You and Michael have so many members on this Forum cheering and praying for you in your treatment, care, and love for Linda, something good has to happen. Hopefully, she'll get better as the days go by and can handle whatever has to be done for her. She is one lucky lady to have you guys, and I'm so happy to see she is home. Home is where the Heart is, right? Keep us posted and continuous prayers for you all.
Julieann
Julieann Nov 2007 SCC on right tonsil following tonsillectomy. Was smoker, QUIT. (Stage IV T2 N2b) 7 weeks radiation one day/wk chemo (carboplatin and 5-FU). Allergic to Taxol; PEG in, lost 30 lbs. TX completed January 2008. PEG out mid- 2008. PET/CT 1/17/2011;2/3/12 NEGATIVE for cancer  | | | | | Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | OP "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 | Linda is now fully informed of her ovarian cancer. It went just as badly as I feared. She was very angry that we had withheld that info from her for as long as we did, an I can't blame her for that. She has come to the point where she says she understands the reasoning behind the decision but she doesn't like it and neither do I. There's nothing about i8t to like. I'm sure some forum members disagree with us on this. We had no idea her hospitalization would last 2 months, we were thinking more on the line of a few weeks so it seemed reasonable not to tell her until her immediate crises was over but, every time things seemed like they were improving there was another crises. So now she faces 6 mos of chemo every 3 weeks. I feel horrible and wish I knew whether we had done the right thing bu I guess there's no easy answer for that.
Last edited by Deejer47; 07-30-2013 02:54 PM.
David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.
| | | | | Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | Oh my dear, dear David - Of course there was good and sound reasoning behind the decision to wait on the ovarian cancer issue. You could not have known how long the hospitalization would take. You have been one of the very best caregivers I've ever seen on these forums. Your love and concern and caring for Linda is something to be envied and admired. Please take heart and look for much better days ahead - That is what I am hoping and praying for you and for Linda. Please keep updating us.
Anne-Marie
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
| | | | | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Don't second guess yourself. You considered all the facts; had her utmost in your mind and you made the best decision you could. Being put in a caregivers position can sometimes lead to no win situations so you do what you think is best and move on to the next no win situation.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
| | | | | Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,264 Likes: 5 "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,264 Likes: 5 | If she understands she'll eventually get over it - ultimately you made the right decision
Cheryl : Irritation - 2004 BX: 6/2008 : Inflam. BX: 12/10, DX: 12/10 : SCC - LS tongue well dif. T2N1M0. 2/11 hemigloss + recon. : PND - 40 nodes - 39 clear. 3/11 - 5/11 IMRT 33 + cis x2, PEG 3/28/11 - 5/19/11 3 head, 2 chest scans - clear(fingers crossed) HPV-, No smoke, drink, or drugs, Vegan
| | | | | Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | OP "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 | Going to see Linda's oncologist this afternoon. This is one of those times when there really is no good news. It's either bad news or worse news. Hoping for merely bad. I know that sounds pessimistic but that's the way it was when I met with the onc. after my diagnosis and I really was relieved that it was "only" bad news. Plese continue to keep Linda in your thouts and prayers.
David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.
| | | | | Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 875 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 875 | Linda, and you, are constantly in my prayers. I look for your posts and updates, so keep us posted and prayers for news that is hopeful.
Julieann
Julieann Nov 2007 SCC on right tonsil following tonsillectomy. Was smoker, QUIT. (Stage IV T2 N2b) 7 weeks radiation one day/wk chemo (carboplatin and 5-FU). Allergic to Taxol; PEG in, lost 30 lbs. TX completed January 2008. PEG out mid- 2008. PET/CT 1/17/2011;2/3/12 NEGATIVE for cancer | | | | | Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,264 Likes: 5 "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,264 Likes: 5 | don't let their negativity be contagious. hugs.
Cheryl : Irritation - 2004 BX: 6/2008 : Inflam. BX: 12/10, DX: 12/10 : SCC - LS tongue well dif. T2N1M0. 2/11 hemigloss + recon. : PND - 40 nodes - 39 clear. 3/11 - 5/11 IMRT 33 + cis x2, PEG 3/28/11 - 5/19/11 3 head, 2 chest scans - clear(fingers crossed) HPV-, No smoke, drink, or drugs, Vegan
| | | | | Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | Ditto what Cheryl said. Positivity is also contagious. Ongoing prayers going your way for more hopeful news.
Anne-Marie
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
| | | | | Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | OP "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 711 | Linda is scheduled for a port on fri and starting chemo next week, every 3 weeks for 6 tx. Onc was hopeful, said at this point her cancer is curable. Her pulmonologist had said it was treatable but not curable. Glad we took that with a grain of salt as he is not an oncologist.
David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.
| | |
| Forums23 Topics18,247 Posts197,132 Members13,319 | | Most Online1,788
Jan 23rd, 2025 | | |
|
