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Joined: Dec 2012 Posts: 17 | Because I could not stop for Death,
He kindly stopped for me;
The carriage held but just ourselves
And Immortality.
We slowly drove, he knew no haste,
And I had put away
My labor, and my leisure too,
For his civility.
We passed the school, where children strove
At recess, in the ring;
We passed the fields of gazing grain,
We passed the setting sun.
Or rather, he passed us;
The dews grew quivering and chill,
For only gossamer my gown,
My tippet only tulle.
We paused before a house that seemed
A swelling of the ground;
The roof was scarcely visible,
The cornice but a mound.
Since then 'tis centuries, and yet each
Feels shorter than the day
I first surmised the horses' heads
Were toward eternity.
--Emily Dickinson
Thanks, Charm, for your experience and expertise, courage and camaraderie, and friendship to friends you never met.
"I have always depended on the kindness of strangers."
Blanche, Tennessee Williams' "A Streetcar Named Desire"
| | | | | Joined: May 2006 Posts: 720 Likes: 1 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 720 Likes: 1 | Charm's death notice, which includes the link to donate to the memorial fund, is in the Washington Post today.
Leslie
April 2006: Husband dx by dentist with leukoplakia on tongue. Oral surgeon's biopsy 4/28/06: Moderate dysplasia; pathology report warned of possible "skip effect." ENT's excisional biopsy (got it all) 5/31/06: SCC in situ/small bit superficially invasive. Early detection saves lives.
| | | | | Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 54 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | | Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 54 | Sorry to hear that this fighter is gone. RIP and condolences to the family.
Age 44. Diagnosed at 34 (2006) with T1N0 SCC tongue on right side. Neck dissed & 6 weeks Radiation. 30% tongue removed. Never smoked;
2nd recurrence 1/2013 on left side. Surgery to remove 2/2013 forearm flap/neck dissec T1N0; brachytherapy 4/2013;
3rd recurrence 11/2015 mandibulectomy for jaw bone cancer Stage IV/no lymph node involvement
| | | | | Joined: Aug 2012 Posts: 214 Likes: 1 Gold Member (200+ posts) | | Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2012 Posts: 214 Likes: 1 | What a loss, RIP my freind. Not many get to touch as many people as you. I love his last post. Here one for you.
Hockey Dad
43, No smoke, Small BOT HPV+16
8/30/12 Biopsy found SCC in Lymph node (removed)
9/19 DX 4a T1N2aM0
10/1 TX 2x Cisplatin 35 IMRT 70 gry (Done 11/15)
PEG tube in 11/7. Out 1/4, Back at work 2/4/13
PET 2/13 Clear, 10/16 all Scopes Clear, 4/14 Chest X-ray Clear, 5/14 Abdominal ultrasound Clear, 8 yrs clean!!!
| | | | | Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | You're one of the toughest and most honorable men I've ever had the privilege of knowing and you changed my life for the better my friend. Even though sick and ailing yourself, after multiple rounds with the beast, you should me how to handle myself and keep pushing forward, to keep fighting for your family. I'm a better man for knowing you and I will miss your wisdom and attitude everyday, I'm truly thankful for the time we had together Old Frack. See you when I get there brother.
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
| | | | | Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 | I am in tears reading this. He was a big help to me during my treatments. I am in shock. I need to apologize the I not here much anymore. I need to make it a point to come post more often.
Angelia
31 at Dx.
DX: 4/30/09, 10/21/09 SCC on floor of mouth,
T1NOMO, T2N1M0
TX: 39 IMRT, 8 cisplatin 11/30/09
PET/CT: 11/03/09: Lymph node involvement
PEG/PORT: 11/09
TX end: 02/01/10
PET Scan: 04/05/10 clear
PEG Out: 06/21/10
Biopsy: 12/23/10: fibrosis
HBO: 01/04/11 - ORN
Baby girl born 11-30-12
| | | | | Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 225 "OCF across the pond" Gold Member (200+ posts) | | "OCF across the pond" Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 225 | Words fail me. This is so sad. Rest in peace Charm. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. We will light a candle in church tomorrow.
Girlfriend to Martin 49 years old at diagnosis
Diagnosed with SCC unknown primary June 2008.
Cancer found in single node Stage N2A (3 to 6cm).
Tonsilectomy 16th june, Radical modified neck dissection left side 30th june.
30 TX radiotherapy ended 9th October
First comparative study scan came back clear
| | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | I just haven't been able to find the right words after finding out Charm has passed. This is one guy I know we will miss very much. It won't be the same with the Fracker and his emails. I felt close to him and the words he would send me. Even when he 1st came into the forims and I thought he was a lady. Damn I felt dumb until he emailed me and laughed along with me,. He told me I wasn't the 1st to mistake him and laughed again. Sure will miss you Charm.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | To those who may have missed the Washington Post's obituary for Charm here is the link. I know it would mean alot to Bev and their son for Charm's fellow OCF members to sign the guest book. It does take some time for the posts to appear but at this time there are only 7 entries. Lets show Charm's family how loved and respected he was by taking a minute to sign his guest book. Thank you!!! Tom Baker's Guest Book (for Charm)
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Jan 2013 Posts: 57 "OCF Canuck" Supporting Member (50+ posts) | | "OCF Canuck" Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2013 Posts: 57 | Very sad news I will miss his always interesting posts and courage that has helped me and so many others cope with this terrible disease and the side effects of treatment to try and cure ourselves of it, charm was a caring person who helped many through their diagnoses and treatments,
truly one of a kind...rest in peace Charm
46 yr old non smoker moderate drinker
Lump on neck
Dx branchial cyst by fna mar 2012
Op to remove dec2012 biopsy back hpv 16 scc
Starting rads jan 31 no chemo docs say?
Finished mar13
Pet scan june 30 NED :)))
Back to work and enjoying life
Checkup aug 12 all good
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