| Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 381 "OCF Canuck" Platinum Member (300+ posts) | "OCF Canuck" Platinum Member (300+ posts) Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 381 | Awesome! I love those both, especially since I will going bald and beautiful shortly myself!
I am storing up the zingers for future use.
Tina Diag: Aug. 13/12 T3N0M0 50% + glossectomy and bilateral radical neck dissection, removal of nodes zones I - V Surgery October 11/12 Chemo/rad on hold due to clear margins and nodes Sept 21/13 clear CT with anomaly thought to be the artery, being watched closely. Dec 16/13 - anomaly confirmed artery, all clear nickname: "get 'r done" Plans: kick cancer's butt
| | | | Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | On the same vein as Cheryl's quote of "What the F______are you staring at" a popular comeback phrase during my high school days (back in the middle ages) when others stared for too long at someone, was "Take a picture - it lasts longer!".
Anne-Marie CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
| | | | Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 381 "OCF Canuck" Platinum Member (300+ posts) | "OCF Canuck" Platinum Member (300+ posts) Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 381 | I'm trying to think of a comparable to when peopel ask me if I have I children (I am a family lawyer and some people think having kids is a job requirement).
I simply have never wanted children, but when one particularly nosy other lawyer asked, I responded "No, I am barren, thank you for bringing up a painful subject".
That shut her up!
Tina Diag: Aug. 13/12 T3N0M0 50% + glossectomy and bilateral radical neck dissection, removal of nodes zones I - V Surgery October 11/12 Chemo/rad on hold due to clear margins and nodes Sept 21/13 clear CT with anomaly thought to be the artery, being watched closely. Dec 16/13 - anomaly confirmed artery, all clear nickname: "get 'r done" Plans: kick cancer's butt
| | | | Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 126 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 126 | Good story for you guys... I was at a party on NYE and ran into an acquaintance (whom I am assuming was very intoxicated) who I havent seen since before I got sick. So she's like ohhh emily how ARE you??? in that annoying sympathetic voice people use when they ask a sick person how they are. so I kind of ignored it and I was like i'm doing great! how are you? then she asks me again in the same voice, we go through the same thing again, then she goes to introduce me to her boyfriend. while maintaining this pitying attitude, shes like this is emily, last year, emily.... and then she gave me a pouty face and a little side hug and i changed the subject before she finished the intro and walked away. does my medical history really need to be included in my introduction to strangers at parties?!?
Emily - 24 years old at diagnosis HPV-, no risk factors T2N2b Squamous Cell Carcinoma Left oral tongue, poorly differentiated Hemiglossectamy, reconstruction, partial neck dissection 30 Radiation treatments, weekly chemo (cisplatin) 1/13/12 last day of treatment Diagnosed October 2011
| | | | Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 | Charm,
I just have to tell you that I spent the last hour rereading this thread. What a great thing you started here! I had some great laughs, too. These entries will always be current no matter when they were written.
Happy New Year!
Anita
Anita (68) CG to husband, Clark, 79, DX SCC 11/07, T4N0Mx, PEG 1/08, RAD, post rad infection 3/08, HBOT 40 dives, ORN, Surg 11/09 mandibulectomy w/fibular graft. Plastic Surg 4/10, 12/10, 3/11, 10/11, 4/12, 10/12. All PETS clear, PEG out 1/11. 6/11 non union jaw fracture Fractured jaw w/surgery 7/14 Aspiration pneumonia 7/21, 10/22 PEG 7/21 Botox injections
| | | | Joined: May 2012 Posts: 162 Likes: 1 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: May 2012 Posts: 162 Likes: 1 | Anita, I just read the same thread yesterday, completely agree...Charm, you started a good one!
The worst was when we were in the thick of it, and people would give "puppy dog eyes" or be too nice, treat us like they thought someone was dying.
When Vince was first diagnosed, one of my son's coaches, and a close family friend, who always razzed us, called being extremely sweet. I told him that if he started talking to me like he thought Vince was dying, I'd kick his butt. I knew he was there for our family, but was very happy when he went back to treating us in his normal snarky way. Ana
wife/caregiver to Vince, dx 4/12 Stage IV BOT HPV+ SCC, poorly diff.; T4N2cMo; U of C; Clinical trial, Everolimus; 6 wks ind. chemo (Cetuximab, Cisplatin & Taxol), 50 x IMRT, 75 gy chemorad w/5FU, Hydrea & Taxol; 5 years out, thankfully still NED
| | | | Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 381 "OCF Canuck" Platinum Member (300+ posts) | "OCF Canuck" Platinum Member (300+ posts) Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 381 | Ok, I have another one for you.
I returned to work to receive a message from a client who was irritated that I was unable to call her back within a week of my surgery date. Her words, and I quote:
"I know you underwent cancer surgery. I had TMJ so I totally understand what you are going through, but I need to hear back from you within a week."
Really, TMJ? Needless to say I fired her as my client...I hate stupid people.
Tina Diag: Aug. 13/12 T3N0M0 50% + glossectomy and bilateral radical neck dissection, removal of nodes zones I - V Surgery October 11/12 Chemo/rad on hold due to clear margins and nodes Sept 21/13 clear CT with anomaly thought to be the artery, being watched closely. Dec 16/13 - anomaly confirmed artery, all clear nickname: "get 'r done" Plans: kick cancer's butt
| | | | Joined: Jul 2011 Posts: 945 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Jul 2011 Posts: 945 | Tina, Glad you canned her - she definitely doesn't deserve you! Maria
CG to husband - SCC Tonsil T1N2M0 HPV+ Never Smoker First symptoms 7/2010, DX 12/2010 TX 40 IRMT (1.8 gy) + 10 Cetuximab PET Scans 6/2011 + 3/2012 clear, 5 year physical exam clear; chest CT's clear of cancer. On thyroid pills. Life is good.
| | | | Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | Good for you, Tina! You can't fix "stupid" and to quote (loosely) Desiderata - "stay way from stupid people, they are 'Vexations' to the spirit".
Anne-Marie CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
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