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Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 307 | Dear All,
I still can't believe I am now a part of "those who have lost their loved one". On Sunday June 24th my hubby Ron went to sleep at 7:30pm because he had to wake up early the next day. I was still doing some stuff around the house and went into our bedroom at 9:00pm to go to bed.
I looked at Ron and his face was white. I touched him and he was cold...I called 911 and did CPR on him until the paramedics came. They couldn't revive him. I am totally devastated and heartbroken but at the same time I'm thankful to have shared a love so strong that not even death can break our bond.
On our last wedding anniversary Ron gave me a silver heart that said "Ron and Shelley...Eternal Love". He will live forever in my heart. The wonderful people on this website have helped me so much over the last 7 year's. I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Lots of Love,
Shelley
Caregiver to husband Ron. Throat Cancer. Finished 35 radiation treatments on 11/21/04. 8/2/11 small lesion on lower gum, laser Procedure to remove. 3/6/12 Doc. removed another lesion on outside of his neck. Did a skin graft from his chest to replace the skin on his neck. Went to Heaven on 6/24/12.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 476 | Oh Shelley, I am so, so sorry. There just are no words. Take some small measure of comfort that Ron is in a better place and went peacefully. Be thankful for the special love you two shared. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2
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Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 | I am so very sorry for you, Shelly. What a shock! I hope that you are comforted by family and friends who can share the wonderful memories you have of Ron. This is such heartbreaking news. Ron was a thoughtful guy to have given you the silver heart. It is so sweet that you have a special token of his love for you. When my friend, Bunny, passed away a few years ago, another friend and I were so sad that we didn't have some token of hers to remember her. Not that we needed one but it would have been nice to have a piece of her...like a pin or earrings. We promised each other we would leave something special to each other. I send you love, and hugs.
Anita (68)
CG to husband, Clark, 79,
DX SCC 11/07, T4N0Mx, PEG 1/08, RAD, post rad infection 3/08,
HBOT 40 dives, ORN, Surg 11/09 mandibulectomy w/fibular graft.
Plastic Surg 4/10, 12/10, 3/11, 10/11, 4/12, 10/12. All PETS clear,
PEG out 1/11. 6/11 non union jaw fracture
Fractured jaw w/surgery 7/14
Aspiration pneumonia 7/21, 10/22
PEG 7/21
Botox injections
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Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 123 | Shelley I was so shocked when I saw your post on Facebook. I am sorry you have joined this club. Even though our husbands fought this disease so hard both their deaths were sudden. I always say I am glad that Ken went quickly and that his suffering ended, but that we had had those discussions you have when someone is diagnosed with cancer. You have been so strong all of these years and that strength will get you through.
Jill..CG to Ken, age 43,mom of 1yr old girl.
DIAG:12/9/10 SCC BOT T4N0M0 HPV+
START:1/3/11 IMRT dailyX35 and 7 chemo
END:2/23/11 PEG IN:1/15/11 Out:4/26/11
CT/MRI 4/25/11-marked improvement CT 6/11 new spots
BX 6/23-cancer present
Total Glossectomy sched 7/20/11
7/19/11 Ken's suffering ended
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | What a shock all this has been for you and your family. My sincere condolences to all. There are no words that will ease your pain but know we are here for you - always.
Hugs
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 75 |
CG to sp age 53
4/10 BOT IVb
6/10 Ttl Gloss Lrngectmy L Mndbltmy 5+ Nodes
7/10 Cispl & Rad
1/11 recur lung mets
2/11 Clin Tr Erb Carb 5FU last 5/11
7/11 Tumor growth began wkly Bleo, Taxol, Carbo
10/28/11 Hospice; Passed 11/7/11
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Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 | Shelly, I am sorry. Sending love ((hugs))
Christine
CG to my husband, Matt. Dx June 2009 Stage IV Oropharengeal SCC right tonsil primary with distant metastases. Rad to neck- Surgeries to lungs- Every avail chemo - ran out of options Jan 2012, called for hospice help Feb 2012, at rest March 19, 2012.
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Joined: May 2012 Posts: 114 | So so sorry to hear this  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Amy CG to mom Janet - diag w/ early SCC 8/11-surg w/ rad neck dissect & graft from arm/thigh 9/11-evid in nodes tx 6 wks rads (5/wk) w/cistplatin (1/wk for 6 wks) began 11/11-wk or 2 break 12/11 due to severe side effects-done 1/12- 3/23/12 mets to liver lung bone-hospice 4/7/12-lost fight 4/22/12
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Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 596 | Dear Shelley,
I am deeply saddened to learn of Ron's passing. I'm sorry that I don't know you all that well, but it seems from your signature that he was doing pretty well and was far out from his initial diagnosis and treatment. It's so strange how things sometimes happen. I am glad that he passed peacefully.
I'm so happy that you have such a wonderful token of your love and commitment to one another. I'm sure that it has even more meaning now. Ron was fortunate to have you by his side through this ordeal. It takes a very special person to be a loving caregiver and not to give up when things get tough.
I wish for you and your family to have moments of peace, comfort, and strength as you travel through this emotional journey. Please do something nice for yourself...something that provides relief and comfort.
With love and care,
Kerri
37 y/o fem at Dx (23 wks preg @ dx on 3/16/11)
SCC L oral tongue (no risk factors)
L partial gloss/MND 3/28/11 @ 25 wks preg
T1-2N0M0; no rads/chemo
Tonsillectomy on 8/6/12 +SCC L tonsil T2-3N1M0 (HPV-)
Treated with 35 rads/7 carbo & taxol (Rx ended 10/31/12), but many hospitalizations d/t complications from rx.
Various scans since rx ended are NED!
Part of genetic study for rare cancers @ MGH.
44 years old now...I wasn't sure I would make it! Hoping for 40 more!
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