| Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 | Yes, yes. We LOVE hearing from you!!! What are your further thoughts on the land? Kathy
Kathy wife/caregiver to: Kevin age:53 Dx 7/15/11 HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R Non smoker, casual drinker 7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11 PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11 Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14 | | | | Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 | Kathy - I am going to look at the land Friday, along with another property with just under 4 acres and a lovely creek ON the property. The second one isn't finished, but it's priced accordingly and I have contacts there that can get it done.
I got AWESOME news today.
I haven't looked for work or anything yet because widow brain seriously rivals chemo brain and I don't remember shh right now. Not to mention the random crying spells may not go over well.
Today, I get an email from the guy that owns the company I worked for back in Arkansas. It says "call me"... He has finally realized that I carried that office and that without me, the so called accounting manager is a desperate failure. He offered me her job today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I cannot even begin to tell you how excited I am.
The slight reservation I have is because he offered it to me several years ago but then didn't follow through with firing her. He'd better do it this time!
I already know and love all of the people there and the job is second nature so I can do it through the blonde moments and the tears! YAY! Plus my son's best friends are there.
I also got my computer back from the shop today where they were combining Matt's hard drives and files onto my PC. No charge. That man is great, I'll miss the service when I move.
To be fair... I don't sleep at night, I cry my eyes out a LOT and I am lonely as hell... but every now and then the universe smiles on me and I know I will be alright.
Christine
CG to my husband, Matt. Dx June 2009 Stage IV Oropharengeal SCC right tonsil primary with distant metastases. Rad to neck- Surgeries to lungs- Every avail chemo - ran out of options Jan 2012, called for hospice help Feb 2012, at rest March 19, 2012.
| | | | Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 | That truly is GREAT news. I'm glad you hadn't taken something else!! The land sounds like heaven! That is what Kevin wants someday. Probably not around here though. I wish we had just looked for that when we moved here from Alaska, but with the kids I wanted to be close to the town hall which has baseball fields, tennis courts, basketball courts, soccer fields and a pool. Everything we do is pretty much done there. If we had moved where there was land I would be driving constantly. With Kevin gone to work 3 weeks at a time it would have been all me and I just didn't want it. I'm sorry about the nights. I pray with time it will get better. I can't imagine Christine. Have his girls come around at all?
Kathy wife/caregiver to: Kevin age:53 Dx 7/15/11 HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R Non smoker, casual drinker 7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11 PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11 Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14 | | | | Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 | The oldest, Amanda has been in touch and FINALLY joined facebook. We have made plans to get together this weekend. I told her about the job offer and she was really excited for me. I know Matt wanted me to be close for her, but I think he underestimated what a strong young woman she is. She's just like her Daddy in so many ways. I don't think either daughter ever fully realized just how much I love them too. But, they will see over the years that they remain in my heart and on my mind just like their dad will.
The property is very enticing Kathy... My son however chimed in today with a request to live somewhere "not boring" and our definitions of that happen to be opposite! He wants the city close to his friends. I want the country away from it all. Now, if I can't get decent internet out there... that could be a deal breaker! We will see!
CG to my husband, Matt. Dx June 2009 Stage IV Oropharengeal SCC right tonsil primary with distant metastases. Rad to neck- Surgeries to lungs- Every avail chemo - ran out of options Jan 2012, called for hospice help Feb 2012, at rest March 19, 2012.
| | | | Joined: Feb 2012 Posts: 151 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Feb 2012 Posts: 151 | Christine,
Moving and all that goes along with will definietly keep you busy and exhausated, making sleep easier at night.
The land sounds wonderful!! To have a creek is even better. I want to wake up and look at water every morning when we retire. After visiting my son in FL and his condo had water on 3 sides I called my husband and said I was ready to move!!! AZ would never work for me, all that sand (desert) and no water.
The job opportunity sounds just what you need. Glad things are working out for you and happy to see you still posting.
Husband diagnosed Oct '11 Cancer of the vocal cord Nov '11 removed right vocal cord. Neck Dissection, cancer in one node, .2, very small & contained) Jan '12 Radiation and Cisplatin, 6 doses. June '12 & Dec '12 clear Pet scan. April '13 Celebrating 1 year cancer free since treatment ended.
| | | | Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 531 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 531 | I'm confused where do you live Christine? MO or AR? I know they are right next to each other do you live right on the border or are you moving to AR for the job? lol sorry really befuddled but other than that HEY wonderful news!!! I would so love to live out in the country with a creek and creatures! lol Take pics put on FB I'll check em out! If my kids and grandkids and all my family didn't live right here in OH within 40 mins of each other...I'd be gone down to Florida probably, my friend sells homes down there, mostly the ones I can't afford lol but she is so good she will find me something she said if I really decided to move down there. She sells homes without people even coming down to see them personally, she does virtual showings and she is making a killing down there!
CG to Ron Out of Pain 4/3/13 4/12-lung and under chin growth no treatment 1/13/12 lung biopsy 6/11 recur 6/30 resection #2 Clear margins Clear 12/10 Surg 5/13/10 neck dis/nodes part gloss/flap R thigh all teeth out RAD 30 8/10 DX 4/2/10 "Oral Cavity" T3NOMO 12/28/07 Non Hodg Lymph remission 7/08 passed away 4.3.15, RIP Ron, you are greatly missed
| | | | Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 | LOL, Suez I move so damn much I get confused... I am currently in Springfield MO... about two hours south is Springdale, AR where I used to live, and will be moving back to for the job. It doesn't help me that the darn city names are so similar. I'll be botching that up for months.
I like FL and such to visit, but I don't like the ocean near as much as a river or good mountain stream... the continuity of flowing water soothes the soul. (mine anyway)
I will post pics on FB this weekend, I'll be looking at the properties tomorrow.
My son was humming and singing around the house again yesterday. It's been a looooooooong time since he's done that. I am so happy to see some joy in him again. He used to always walk around humming a song.
God is good my friends. Even when we don't see how it's possible through the darkness. He's with us always.
CG to my husband, Matt. Dx June 2009 Stage IV Oropharengeal SCC right tonsil primary with distant metastases. Rad to neck- Surgeries to lungs- Every avail chemo - ran out of options Jan 2012, called for hospice help Feb 2012, at rest March 19, 2012.
| | | | Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 | Amen Christine!! See, that was our problem too. Darn kids!! Just kidding!! I figured Kevin and I will have our day, now we know every day is a gift and I'm sad we didn't move where he wanted. Oh well, we are here now and here we will stay until the kids all graduate. We just built the addition for my Mom to live here a year and a half ago too, so I think she would kill me if I announced we were moving. Sure sounds awesome though. How old is your son?
Kathy wife/caregiver to: Kevin age:53 Dx 7/15/11 HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R Non smoker, casual drinker 7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11 PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11 Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14 | | | | Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 | He will be 14 at the end of June, AND he just made my night by liking a property I found with 30 acres, mostly wooded. It's the farthest out of all I've looked at and THATs the one he likes. Go figure! My big concern with it is going to be getting internet out there on the mountain! And the address.... on True Love Rd.
Kinda cheesy, but I like it.
CG to my husband, Matt. Dx June 2009 Stage IV Oropharengeal SCC right tonsil primary with distant metastases. Rad to neck- Surgeries to lungs- Every avail chemo - ran out of options Jan 2012, called for hospice help Feb 2012, at rest March 19, 2012.
| | | | Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 571 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 571 | Girl, this is a family. We'd be missing you if you disappeared on us!
Ex-spouse MISDIAGNOSED with SCC-HN IVa 12/10. Tonsils out 1/11. 4 teeth out 2/11. TX Erbitux x2, IMRT x2 2/11. 2nd opinion-benign BCC-NOT CANCER 3/11. TX stopped 3/11. New doctors 4/11. ENT agrees with 2nd opinion 5/11. ENT scoped him-all clear 7/11. Ordered MRI anyway. MRI 8/22/11 Result-all clear.
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