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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Bonnie, I am very sorry about the latest turn of events with John. I know it is very difficult but you can get thru it. People dont always know just how strong they are until they are forced to be strong. Take things day by day, or hour by hour. Make sure you take a break and catch your breath. Thats something caregivers forget, to look out for themselves too. Please take care! I will keep you both in my prayers.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 | Bonnie,
I am so sorry for you and John. I am at a loss for words...I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.
Anita (68)
CG to husband, Clark, 79,
DX SCC 11/07, T4N0Mx, PEG 1/08, RAD, post rad infection 3/08,
HBOT 40 dives, ORN, Surg 11/09 mandibulectomy w/fibular graft.
Plastic Surg 4/10, 12/10, 3/11, 10/11, 4/12, 10/12. All PETS clear,
PEG out 1/11. 6/11 non union jaw fracture
Fractured jaw w/surgery 7/14
Aspiration pneumonia 7/21, 10/22
PEG 7/21
Botox injections
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Joined: Jul 2011 Posts: 945 | Bonnie,
When we are in the depths of crisis, it seems like there is nothing we can do. All our wishes for health and strength for our loved one have come to naught, and we feel helpless: we have done all that is humanly possible. And yet, that is a great deal. Your love and steadfast care for John has been a gift beyond measure to him, and is a blessing to you both even - and especially - at this darkest of times.
CG to husband - SCC Tonsil T1N2M0 HPV+ Never Smoker
First symptoms 7/2010, DX 12/2010
TX 40 IRMT (1.8 gy) + 10 Cetuximab
PET Scans 6/2011 + 3/2012 clear, 5 year physical exam clear; chest CT's clear of cancer. On thyroid pills. Life is good.
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Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 875 | Bonnie:
All I can do is add my heartfelt sorrow, along with the others. I pray things won't get bad, and that whatever is in store, will not cause you endless suffering and unhappiness. The "Love of your Life" will always be that, now, tomorrow, and forever. I send my love and prayers to you and John.
julieann
Julieann Nov 2007 SCC on right tonsil following tonsillectomy. Was smoker, QUIT. (Stage IV T2 N2b) 7 weeks radiation one day/wk chemo (carboplatin and 5-FU). Allergic to Taxol; PEG in, lost 30 lbs. TX completed January 2008. PEG out mid- 2008. PET/CT 1/17/2011;2/3/12 NEGATIVE for cancer | | | | | Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 99 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | | Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 99 | So sorry to read your post - Yes, you can do this next step too -you love him, he needs you - just remember, one day at a time like you've done all these months. We'll be here thinking and praying for strength and peace for both of you.
CG 2 Emmett,7/09 DX SCC rt tongue. T2N1M0, 1 node, marg neg.4/10 PET/CT clear, 9/10 C back. 10/10 Rad hemi, 2 tmrs mod diff. resec flr of mth. Flap 4 nodes/w/ext cap. 11/10 Peg, CX3 HD, 30 rad. 1/31 & 3/21 6/11/11 - PET/CT "activity" 9/11-all Clear. 12/11 peg out. 2/15 still all clear! 9/14 Prostate cancer treated with pencil beam proton therapy, best radiation experience. Keep it in mind as a treatment option for all tumors that can be seen including head and neck.
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Joined: May 2011 Posts: 287 | Bonnie, I am heartbroken to know John's state. I was more than hopeful that the new chemo would work for him and kill his tumor and mets. For a caregiver, this is the worst nightmare coming true after trying the best for their beloved. John would need you more than ever, be with him and spend whatever time is left in peace and love.
May god give you strength.
Father; 67 yrs; RIP: 2012/05/26
TX:SCC pT2N1M0G2;Glossectomy+SND+CCRT(59.3Gy+6xCis.)[2009]
TX:Nodal Mets; 3xDCF[2011/05/05]
TX: RND + PMMC Flap[2011/07/11]
DX:SCC PNI+ECE
TX:Re-RT 60Gy[2011/09/21]
TX:Gefitinib 250mg[2011/12/18]
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Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 531 | God Bless you and John and God give you both stregnth to get thru these next tough days that will be coming up for the both of you. Hold each other close, love each other forever.
CG to Ron
Out of Pain 4/3/13
4/12-lung and under chin growth no treatment
1/13/12 lung biopsy
6/11 recur 6/30 resection #2 Clear margins
Clear 12/10
Surg 5/13/10 neck dis/nodes part gloss/flap R thigh all teeth out
RAD 30 8/10
DX 4/2/10 "Oral Cavity" T3NOMO
12/28/07 Non Hodg Lymph remission 7/08
passed away 4.3.15, RIP Ron, you are greatly missed
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | Bonnie. Sending you love and prayers. I can only imagine the heartbreak. Cherish these days with him. Love, Kate
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 75 | I am so very sorry Bonnie. I hate this disease!
CG to sp age 53
4/10 BOT IVb
6/10 Ttl Gloss Lrngectmy L Mndbltmy 5+ Nodes
7/10 Cispl & Rad
1/11 recur lung mets
2/11 Clin Tr Erb Carb 5FU last 5/11
7/11 Tumor growth began wkly Bleo, Taxol, Carbo
10/28/11 Hospice; Passed 11/7/11
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Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 706 | Bonnie-I don't come to this forum very much anymore and yours was the first post to catch my eye when I logged in. Please pm me with any questions or just to vent. I've been down this road and would like to help if I can.
cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.
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