Go to bed girl, I'll be nice. I've used my PM's as you've instructed and hopefully clarified what I was trying to say. Either way you'll get no more (other then the usual) sass from me.

I do find it funny when you edit my posts though by using your magical red letter, administrator powers so maybe do some editing just for my childish enjoyment?



You know I love you Christine

Eric

whoa whoa whoa. I started this thread because I have long been curious quite a while about the preponderence of female caregivers on a board for a cancer that impacts men at least threefold over women plus some HPV studies show that 80% of HPV oral cancer will be men. But I never actually started it because I was concerned that so many of the caregivers here are so mama grizzly protective of their male patients that I knew many would ascribe dastardly motives to me.
Now I'm not talking about Liz's wisecrack -which I found wonderful as it's no secret I believe I'm exceptional - a literal Legend in my Own Mind. Add my over the top tough guy patter-plus my views on PEGS, Neck Dissections, Petscans that contradict some of the caregivers' doctors opinions (all of whom went to school in the 20th century ) and last but not least: smart ass comments like that last parenthentical mean I rub a lot of readers the wrong way. Boo Hoo As the country song goes:
[quote]I'm wild and a little crazy too
Some girls don't like boys like me
Aww but some girls do
[/quote] I get many more very nice PMs from the "charmed ones", then diatribes from upset ones.

I am going right to the source to see the real reasons.
Lots of caregivers here do openly vent their frustrations with their patients so my question about whether the cg prefers to be the only one on OCF is legitimate.
So back on track: please continue to share the reasons you as a caregiver are here rather than the patient. You are helping me with a mystery that my personal style makes unthinkable for myself.
OCF is a wide community and we all bring different talents to this table, and we have a surfeit of warm loving totally accepting and supportive people here, so there is certainly room for someone like me.
Keep the Faith

Charm...you and your sidekick are incorrigable.You just love to poke your sticks into a hornets nest and see what you can stir up lol.I think your question was quite a legitimate one and i answered in all good faith.Yes the throw away at the end was a british attempt at humour,but i do remember the days when i was fraught and frazzled and you and buggar lugs wound me up something rotten.

Strong minded,self confident even arrogant men you are but sometimes a little short on the tact and diplomacy gene,and unquestionably intolerant of alternative opinions and behaviour to your own.

All that said as you say there is a place for all on OCF as long as lines aren't stepped over.

love liz

Charm,

Why don't men ask for directions? Why don't they read the instruction manual that came with the power equipment? Why don't they ask for help?

Taken as a whole, women and men are just different.

Margaret.....you hit the nail right on the head.

Thank you Christine. Again, I am sorry for being party to anything that has caused you anxiety.

And nobody is worried about causing me anxiety? Oh well.
Seriously, I appreciate all the responses. It's good when things get spelled out - less miscommunication.
Margaret and Connie's point has crossed my mind.
But this is a lot less than "30 or 300" reasons so you others please feel free to chime in.

PS... Liz have you been talking to my wife?

I've been reading, and reading, and reading the posts about this subject, and as a fellow forum member, all I can say is that I sure am glad we have Christine as an Administrator who keeps on top of things, and uses her "magical red letter administrator powers" to keep everyone civilized. Thanks, Christine!
julieann

Wow, arrogant and sidekick even...Liz you are so tactful yourself and as I recall so open to the view points of others as long as they agree with you. It may be the British elitist attitude I mistake for humility.

All joking jabs aside (and those were jests as I feel I have a relationship with Liz to take and receive those jabs) I agree with the difference in not just men and women but in personality types.

Liz
[quote=Cookey]Charm...
Strong minded,self confident even arrogant men you are but sometimes a little short on the tact and diplomacy gene,and unquestionably intolerant of alternative opinions and behaviour to your own.
[/quote]
And one of the differences between men and women (IMO) is that women make this sound like a bad thing instead of "tiger blood"

PS. Eric is my "brother-in-arms" and nobody's "sidekick" A sidekick would never have made Brian close down those first threads where Eric & I tangled. Finally a kindred spirit/warrior on board to balance out the dialogues.
Charm