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Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Carol,
What a beautiful tribute to your friend and companion. I am so sorry to hear that Carol lost this battle. I do know somewhat know how you feel having recently lost my husband and best friend of 43 years to a sudden heart attack. The emptiness and still expecting them to be there is hard to deal with. Are your pets still have around? I find I can find some comfort in our two cats who also miss him. Try to remember all the wonderful times you had together and maybe it will help you get through this time of grief. I use the memories to put me to sleep at night. My deepest sympathies to you and her family and friends.
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 2,219 | Linda,
I'm so sorry to read about Carol's passing. She was very lucky to have you as her partner and eventual caregiver. It is apparent to all of us that the love you shared was very special.
Jerry
Retired Dentist, 59 years old at diagnosis. SCC of the left lateral border of the tongue (Stage I). Partial glossectomy and 30 nodes removed, 4/6/05. Nodes all clear. No chemo no radiation 18 year survivor.
"Whatever doesn't kill me, makes me stronger"
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Joined: Mar 2011 Posts: 22 | Linda,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. May you take comfort in knowing an angel is watching over you.
joucads
DX: T1N0 Tongue Cancer 23/3/2011
Partial Glossectomy 30/3/2011
Clear margins.
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Joined: Dec 2009 Posts: 108 | Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. Whenever you hear the words "inoperable" you try to steel yourself and prepare for the day. But no matter how prepared you believe you are, you're not. It still hits you, hits you hard and knocks you on your ass.
Thank you all for your support over the last year. The information you all share from personal experiences is invaluable. I respect each and every survivor and caregiver who fights this horrific disease every hour of every day.
Love and prayers to all.
Linda
CG/Carol 57;SCC Stage IV L Tonsil T4N2bM0 12/2009
Recur 7/2010 - 2cm mass Invasive SCC L Floor Lower Jaw
Surgery 8/10 - Trach,ND,p. mandibulectomy,pec flap
ypT4aN0 HG Mucoepidermoid carcinoma
2nd Recur 1/18/11 - Tumor lower left lip
Surgery 2/9/11 - Canceled - Inoperable
3/29/11 - Died
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Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 446 | Linda
The world shines a little less brightly tonight. My deepest sympathies in your loss
SCC left mandible TIVN0M0 40% of jaw removed, rebuilt using fibula, titanium and tissue from forearm.June 06. 30 IMRT Aug.-Oct. 06
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Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 756 Likes: 1 | Linda,
I'm so sorry to read about Carol's passing. You had a very special relationship and she was lucky to have you as her partner and caregiver. Words cannot ease the pain you are feeling, but know that I am thinking of you both and share your sorrow.
Susan
SCC R-Lateral tongue, T1N0M0
Age 47 at Dx, non-smoker, casual drinker, HPV-
Surgery: June 2005
RT: Feb-Apr 2006
HBOT: 45 in 2008; 30 in 2013; 30 in 2022 -> Total 105!
Recurrence/Surgeries: Jan & Apr 2010
Biopsy 2/2011: Moderate dysplasia
Surgery 4/2011: Mild dysplasia
Dental issues: 2013-2022 (ORN)
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Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 71 | So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you gals had a really good life together. I hope the warm memories will rapidly replace the cold loneliness.
mark
11/1999 SCC tongue - surgery
1/2000 Met(s) in lymph nodes - modRND
2/2000-4/2000 RT ~6 weeks
end of 2006 SCC tongue - surgery
1/2008 SCC BOT - surgery / PEG installed
2/2008 chemo & RT
4/2008 last time I consumed solid food by mouth
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | Linda- You were her rock. I agree - no one can ever prepare you for the day they leave this earth. I am sure it was a very very sad day for you.
Your love for each other was so strong. May your beautiful memories together make these days a little less painful.
Thinking of you.
Kate
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 453 | My thoughts are with you Linda, you and Carol. You are both amazing women and my heart is with you both.
Wife to Steve 43. DX 5 May 09. T4N2MO SCC tongue, floor of mouth, lymph nodes & jaw bone
No surgery
Teeth removed 06/07/2009
radiation 13/07/2009 x 7wks
chemo 15/07/2009 x 3 Cisplatin
last TX 28/08/2009
25/11/2009 PET-lymph node activity.
08/01/2010 CT Scan-ALL CLEAR
03/03/2010-Peg removed
01/2013 left side of Jaw removed and replaced with pectoral flap.
23/12/2020 scan show lesion in tongue
01/2021 SCC stage 3 base of tongue diagnosed
01/03/2021 chemotherapy started.
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Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 | So sorry to hear about your loss. What an amzinf partner and caregiver you were. Praying for you.
Angelia
31 at Dx.
DX: 4/30/09, 10/21/09 SCC on floor of mouth,
T1NOMO, T2N1M0
TX: 39 IMRT, 8 cisplatin 11/30/09
PET/CT: 11/03/09: Lymph node involvement
PEG/PORT: 11/09
TX end: 02/01/10
PET Scan: 04/05/10 clear
PEG Out: 06/21/10
Biopsy: 12/23/10: fibrosis
HBO: 01/04/11 - ORN
Baby girl born 11-30-12
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