Wow - sorry to get everyone riled up. I take no offense at anything which has been said in reaction to my posts. Thanks to my defenders. I did not make myself very clear.

In my first post I was upset that the person seemed to be equating my surviving 3 cancers(thank G-d it should be permanent) with being something I have done.

In my second post I meant the word victim in the absolute sense of one who is adversly affected by something. This is neither positive nor negative(remember those old math classes?). A victim is not defined by the reaction or outcome but by the event.

If a piano falls on your head you are the victim of someone's carelessness, an occurance above, someone intentionally dropping it on you, maybe not looking where you were going and tripping over your own feet, your own stupidity for standing under the thing as it is being lowered or maybe you are Joe Blflspk (any Dick tracey fans: is that the correct spelling?).

Malka

While I am still waiting for my wristwatch radio, I think you meant the Little Abner character, [quote]Joe Btfsplk: World's most loving friend and worst jinx who always travels with a dark cloud over his head.[/quote]
Charm

Charm, You're right.
I didn't have chemo so I can't blame that mixup on chemo brain, I'll just have to admit to old fogey foggy brain.
You young kids will just have to google those old comic strips to see what you missed. They sure beat Brewster Rocket.

I know we're going a bit off subject here but, speaking of old comic strips, there's a raging controversy in the local daily about keeping "Beetle Bailey". Someone wrote in and said "everyone who ever liked Beetle Bailey is dead by now". I beg your pardon!

Well, this certainly can be on topic: don't you just hate it when us AARP CERTIFIED ADULTS (50 plus) are written off? All the TV reviews and ratings explictly focus on the 18 to 45 crowd and now the comic pages? Showing just how old I am, don't you just hate the new artist/inker on Judge Parker? I know it's a temporary fill in due to illness, but it's terrible.
Charm

after reading a certain post on facebook today, i was visibly shaken at the responses of a person that has not dealt with cancer. i guess until i actually saw that today, i didnt really realize that unless u are a ORAL cancer patient or caregiver--u DO NOT have any clue about the true effects of this beast.

eric, i truly thought there was going to be a cyber-fight, and i wanted u to know---i had ur back

Speaking of facebook. One of my so called friends decided to delete me and then post on her wall how I was full of self pity because Steve had cancer. All because I told her I thought people should donate to fund raising if they really cared about curing cancer. She hasn't seen me at all for the 10 months since Steve was diagnosed and has no idea of how we cope day to day with what Steve's been through. If there's one thing I'm not, it's full of self pity. S**t happens and it just so happened that cancer decided to pick on us, along with millions of other people. We deal with it the best we can and always stay positive. God forbid she ever has to go through something like this and needless to say that friendship will never, ever return.

wendy, there never was a TRUE friendship. this will help you to delete your "so called" friends and will leave you with true friends. that was an awful thing to do. my heart goes out to you.

Wendy, my mouth just dropped open at your post. I think the old phrase "with friends like that who needs enemies" was written for insensitive people like that. Sorry you have to deal with that. UGH.

Wendy you have so many real friends and this is not one of them.
Try to forget about her as she is not worth having you as a friend