Hello Meri
I am sorry to read of your recurrences. I can't help with your type of cancer but wondered if you had tried the Cancer Council. They have an oral cancer forum. Someone there may have had similar experiences in Australia. That is very tough, having an eighth operation.
I gather from your post that you haven't had chemo or radiation treatment. Are the doctors you are seeing cancer specialists?
Please let us know how you are getting on. You have found a wonderful site where members understand what you are going through and will offer support and knowledge. The main OCF site here gives 2 pages of hits for your cancer type using the site search engine:
http://oralcancerfoundation.org/Best wishes and love from Helen