Why not tell them to ask her themselves?

When I was trying to get back to work my general manager told me " I've always found that the best way to feel normal again is to just get back to work". She sits at a desk. I drive a 13 ton bus full of human beings around the county. If she not feeling 100% and maybe a bit drowsy, nobody dies from it.
Also, while I was off the office staff sent a get well card. Our safety manager signed it "Safety first but health is important, too". Had to laugh at that one, it was so dumb.

Angelina...don't me started on that person you work with!!! We've talked about that before:)

I also like this one..."Mmmm you're so lucky. Now you have an excuse to eat ice cream and milkshakes" to that I say "It hurts to swallow my spit and to get down a little sip chicken broth I have to take pain meds 30 minutes before and use viscous lidocaine during. Man...I am lucky." I tend to be a little harsh because I hate when people say stupid things. But then again, they don't know what to say. There are VERY FEW people that talk to me about it and it doesn't bother me.

have you all noticed that the people you want to talk to about it, don't want to talk about it and the ones you don't want to say another word are the very ones that wont shut up? What's with that?


My boss tried to compare his sunburned back to my trimus pain last week.

As Yogi Berra said: "It's Deja Vu, all over again". Your stories and posts each evoke similar experiences that both my wife and I have undergone. What's great is how we have all kept our sense of humor through these trials & tribulations.
The "how are you" thing is difficult. What is vexing is that no answer except some variant of DavidCPA's "Doing Great" is what is truly expected from you. I think everyone wants to be reassured that even if they did cancer, that it's no big deal what with "modern medicine" and all. And in indirect response to AmyK's observation, if you really answer with details about the pain, the frustration, the seemingly endless complications, the fear of recurrence, or any other facet of the "new normal", the good people are shocked and then avoid you, while the a**holes just nod and tell you "it'll get better" and then launch into an explanation of how their stubbed toe or hangnail or sunburn really hurts too.
To keep the ball rolling here is another actual comment - this one from my mother-in-law:
"Oh, some of the people here have had cancer and they went clogging right after their radiation treatment. Are you doing anything like that?"
PS. I am leaving in a few hours to try and drive the four hours to NJ (beach traffic) to go to another eighth grade reunion (Class of 61 turns 62)where surprisingly people who spurned me then have matured and rallied in support with cards and truly compassionate comments at last year's first reunion after 47 years. We had so much fun, we are doing it again. SO NO POSTS UNTIL MONDAY. HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND.

That is exactly how I felt at the beginning. It is so true. The one's I do not want to talk to about it are the one's that ask me how i am doing and how my tongue is. All I can say is doing well all the while I am trying to firgure out how they knew since I never told them.
[quote=AmyK]have you all noticed that the people you want to talk to about it, don't want to talk about it and the ones you don't want to say another word are the very ones that wont shut up? What's with that?


My boss tried to compare his sunburned back to my trimus pain last week. [/quote]

On a not so funny note, what I really really hate are posters on OCF who post live links to their bogus Mexican clinics like the recidivist who just did it again (by editing his original post I guess) on the adjunctive therapy forum
You can see that Gary and Brian were all so nice to this tout who has posted 15 times here drumming up business for his buddies who take desperate people's money. What is worse is that this guy was cured at John Hopkin's with regular treatment but attributes it to mexican magic.
Charm

If links end up back in signatures or posts, the person that insists on breaking the rules of use - that they agreed to when they joined in the discussion forums - will have their ip address banned and not be able to post here at all ever again. The rules are set up for a reason, so in the tone of this thread, what I really don't like are people that try to do an end run around things, to get their way in spite of the rules.

Brian

Glad to see you contributing to this particular thread. I still shake my head in wonder when I read some of the crybaby posts sent your way, bemoaning an imagined rebuke when all you did was point out a rule or else make an honest comment that rightfully has a negative component. I am only beginning to fully realize just how fragile many of the posters are but luckily for me, any "derogatory" comment is just my opinion - not some perceived judgment from the founding father. I really appeciate you and Gary's deleting those mexican clinic and miracle cure links and quick response to my "notifications". It's a sore point with me and I make no apologies for coming down hard on those who would prey upon my OCF family
charm

I have not been on the forum for a while, just enjoying being well! 3 yrs and 3 months and I count every single day. I had to post here because this is my biggest issue now, with family and friends, they just don't understand what I live with and what I can and cannot do or eat, and how could they! Not like having a tooth out or another type of surgery that heals with no "New Normal". What can I say, nice to know that I am not alone in this, people here on the forum do get it, thank God for this place to vent.
Here is the best one that was slung my way not long ago and I quote "my friend has just been diagnosed with cancer, but not like yours, you know the real kind in her breast"
Gotta love that one....I was speechless..