Hey Meg
i must have missed the part of your post where you asked for our opinion on your decisions.We had a member here who's Mum took the same decision and he kept a good record of her progress so i thought you might like to read his posts to follow the course and progress of her disease.His screan name is Paul R
and his posts appeared in the forum called Coping / Anger and Fear 09/08/2007 20:02 I am sure they will answer all your questions

good luck to you all

liz

Last edited by Cookey; 05-06-2009 08:37 AM.
Liz in the UK

Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.

Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.