Thank you all. The doctors seem so positive but the fact pattern just doesn't look good to me. I will get more involved with this site - I think I personally have hit a little bit of an emotional low and I know I need support. I worry about him now, but I also worry about the future with my two little boys. Too much to think about!! So thank you all - just a day here has made me feel like I have more of an outlet.

CG to H, Joe, 30 yrs old. 7/06-stage I SCC removed from tongue. 1/08-radical neck rt side, 8 positive nodes, imrt/cisplatin 6 wks. 1/09-6cm pos node on left neck. IMRT and carbo/taxol/erbitux 6 wks, surgery in April. 7/09-recurrence left neck. Erbitux, taxotere, 2nd opinion scheduled at MDA...