Hi Sue and welcome to ocf.My husband had metastic secondaries in his parotid gland (its the one where you get mumps!!)and as every one who has been on these boards for the last couple of years will confirm, he was "difficult" to say the least.He had a radical bilateral neck dissection and radiotherapy ,no chemo being deemed necessary.I don't think that was the best decision for him,and perhaps you should get another opinion.Belt and braces is good.

liz