Have you tried the American Cancer Society? They might have great advice and maybe someone locally to talk to your son. It wouldn't hurt to call...

1800 227 2345 main # in Texas...I believe it's 24/7

1888 227 5445 option 1

good luck

7-16-08 age 37@Dx, T3N0M0 SCC 4.778cm tumor, left side of oral tongue, non smoker, casual drinker, I am the 4th in my family to have H&N cancer
8-13-08 left neck dissection and 40% of tongue removed, submandibular salivary gland & 14 nodes clean, no chemo, IMRTx35
11-4-08 Recovering & feeling better