Thank you all for your input. After I had time to think about his comment it bothered me more and more. But being new to this I did not know if that was a recommendation a Dr. might make or inappropriate. I think he knows more (staging, etc.)than he wants to tell us right now. I got the feeling he wanted the oncologist to give us all of the details. But he was definetely making recommendations for treatment, but not telling us what he was basing his information on. Which made me uncomfortable. Which of course is a red flag.

I will make sure we explore these things more with the oncologist.