Doctors shouldn't make hasty judgement and irresponsible remarks on a patient before thorough examination and diagnosis. Stage 4 is indeed a very advanced stage but can be curable. I hate hearing people using the word 'terminal'as if nothing can be done and it is just a matter of time... I am a stage 4B tonsil cancer patient now working full time as an Assistant Principal in a secondary school after taking seven months sick leave receiving treatment and recovering my strength. Yes, I am still suffering from side effects like very dry mouth, raspy voice, neck pain,limb numbness but these have not prevented me from going back to my normal life. There are many people with success stories that give me encouragement and hope.And attitude is everything.
If your doctor gives you up, you should give him up first and get another one who is a positive guy.

Karen, stage 4 tonsil cancer diagonsed in 9/01.