Hi there Frantzy

firstly welcome to OCF,and secondly how unusual to find two men with such similarities in circumstances joining the site with one of the less common forms of Oral Cancer.

The shock and the "roller coaster"scenario are however common to all newly diagnosed forum members who have not always been lucky enough to find this site so early in the journey as you two have.

Following Brians guide lines i would advise you to read the introductory forum,and then using the search engine at the bottom of the page read everything you can about the disease,its diagnosis,staging,treatment and prognosis,and then paper and pen in hand,fire away with the questions.

On a personal note,having a fellow sufferer to compare feelings and worries with is a great help so why not PM stephen?, the journey can be a lot easier with a friend.

good luck

liz