Donna,

I am so sorry. I have 3 grown children and all of them deal with their fathers cancer differently as things progress.

Our oldest lives out of state with his girlfriend. He has guilt about not being around, but likes to pretend that all is well in his world therefore it MUST be good in Mom and Dads world. Its like sometimes he doesnt want us to ruin HIS day. Once they came to visit and I thought they would spend most of the time with my husband but they acted like it was their vacation. I was very angry. Now I just have learned to not have expectations.

My other two children are around their dad more and dont have the guilt. They seem to be more helpful and thoughtful.

Geezz we have best friends that have been disrespectful...so I guess kids can do the same. You know that oh you have cancer you will be better in a couple of months. What you arent well yet??

Nobody truly understands until they are going thru it.

Big hugs to you Donna!!
Cray