Of late, both of my grown children have been VERY hard on me - critical and at time disrespectful. They are adult children - 25 & 27 and how I ENVY Minnie and the fabulous support from her kids who are involved and helpful.

My kids don't want to hear about it - don't really want me to discuss cancer or the treatment of cancer around them.

Is it possible that their "disrespect" is their way of purposely distancing themselves from me - and in a way preparing themselves for my demise.

This has all been VERY hurtful and has become a bit of a viscious circle - the more I feel hurt and sad, the worse they treat me. Having said all this, they are not "bad" kids. They are both productive adults who up until the time of my first cancer diagnosis almost 5 years ago treatment me with respect.

WHAT is going on? Anyone else have this experience?

Donna

Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)