Although I'm not defending anyone i know I get defensive when other people question the decisions my husband and I have made regarding his treatment. I realize family members want to help and that in itself is a wondeful thing, however it tends to make me nervous and defensive as I believe we make the best decisons based on what his doctors discuss with us. Believe me when I say your brother may have already made his decision about how far he's willing to go. My husband has told me that this is his decision, not mine, and he will let me know when he's had enough. Please know I have only the best intentions and wish you peace in this most stressful of times.
Sue