I was reading some stuff on the OCF site and came across a section you may want to read. here is the link - the whole segment is good, but if you are pressed for time scroll down and read the last two paragraphs from the bottom. They may help wiht your family. http://www.oralcancerfoundation.org/emotional/the_family.htm

http://www.oralcancerfoundation.org/emotional/the_family.htm


Michelle, CG to husband (45), DX 2/08 Stage IVa Adenocarcinoma Salivary Gland (T2N2bMO)
Parotidectomy & ND 2/08, Tumor margins not clear, 4 of 30 nodes positve for cancer,
TX IMRT 39x, cisplatin 7x (completed 5/1/08),
PEG (4/22 - 7/9), No port. Currently in remission!