Liz - just for your future conversations in case she considers it again - not too push her with this info... but Dan's surgery was 2/5 and he has a slight crease / wrinkle in his neck, which follows the line already there. It looks GREAT and it hasn't even been 2 months. There is still a tiny bit of swelling and now the redness from radiation of course, but physicaly so not a big deal. If she does have it done just make sure her ENT Surgeon is the type that does plastic surgery too or have a plastic surgeon assist in the surgery. Our ENT Surgeon did everything and it looks GREAT and we're in little old Montgomery, AL :-). He trained at UAB though (right up the road) and a TOP med school. Oh - and Dan's had to be opened back up o 2/15 to do a hematoma evacuation... So surgery is not a big deal and doesn't look bad at all. Dan's only appearance issues are the "stroke look" on the right side from the trauma to the facial nerve - that does bother him alot, but he says he'd rather droop than die :-)
Didn't mean for this to get so long, but I am a "talker"... You are such an amazing friend to Mary and I feel blessed to have "met" you. I have you guys on my daily prayer list! When will the procedure be performed on the node?