Dear little sister, I am a little sister, too, only this time around I was the sick one. So I know for a fact that you are exactly what your brother needs, so full of love and care, and he knows you would do anything on the face of the earth to help him. That is the best medicine you can offer him. Just be with him and you know what helps? Make yourself smile--no kidding. Really, I have found that the actual motion of smiling improves my outlook. You'd think it's the other way around, but PLEASE try it! Research shows that our brain follows that physical instruction and then registers more positive thoughts. Your smile spreads warmth and hope, which is just what he needs. The doctors will figure out how to best take care of his body, so trust them if you can. Your soul and his are together, so just BE together. Pray for calm in the storm, and think of only right now. Be grateful you have each other. Right now you are together. Really and truly, all we have is right now. I urge you to stay right in this moment with your brother. Make right now COUNT for both of you, okay? I know this is sooo hard, but you can do it. With your shared love, you can help your brother make the most of this very moment.
You are both in my prayers. Please keep us posted, okay? We care about you and your family. God bless you.

Non-smoker non-drinker, 50 when diagnosed 9/11/06 stage IV scc of oropharnyx, malignant lymph nodes both sides of neck. Cause=HPV16. Daily chemo & daily IMRT for 7 weeks. In 2 clinical trials at Johns Hopkins, good results. Peg tube out March 07. Update September 2014: gratefully in good health!