Brenda:

Im sorry to hear you are having a rough time. Dont forget the doctor works for YOU. Make your list, check it twice and ask everything and write down the answers. My doctor appointments are always at least 1/2 hr with the doctor because I make sure to understand everything. Ive never experienced the neck swelling or sufficating feelings. Please check with your doctor about your neck and make sure they understand you and dont leave til you understand them. The more calories you take in, the easier and faster your body heals. Have you tried ensure, boost or the carnation very hi calorie, they will help keep your weight up. Hang in there, it will get better.