I totally agree, she should know but the doctor never told her and he wasnt going to tell me and my family but i asked on my own...

The doctor wants her to get her strength back so that they can look at other options and or trying chemo again,... shes way to weak .. and i think thats why the doctor didnt tell her because if she gets her strength back we have some options...

That being said, shes extremely weak, she cant even lift her arm, and since that appointment shes really been pushing herself to take get more energy and strength through increased feedings.

If she can get another treatment in say next month, at least we have some options.. We are meeting the doc again in the second week of feb and if he feels at that time he needs to tell her, he will

I am sure my mom has an idea but why break her spirit.

the world brought me to my knees...
Update: Feb 10/08: Mom passed away on Jan 31,08 - infection (unknown) in her lungs with her weakened immune system resulted in cardiac arrest - T2NO SCC of tongue surgery 6/30/06, SCC left neck and lungs detected Sept 07, 7 weeks rad/3 rounds chemo had no effect.