This meanness and the denial are a part of OC. I have done it as many others on here have. It cost me a relationship. You have to try your best to understand what your dad is going thru both mentally and physically. With me it lasted a coupls of months but it seems I couldn't control it. I am sure you will get much help from this forum and most will give you good advice. Just don't jump ship and give up on him . Try to understand his feelings .For now, just grin and bear it..

Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here