Jeff,
The whole thing with the neck feeling weird-well it may or may not go away-I think it is just individual-but I get so sometimes I don't even notice it. I quess that counts for something.
Don't despair. I am scared all the time because my reconstruction failed and I am left disfigured on my left side of face and still have some issues to work on. Every day that I wake up I am happy that I am cancer-free for this moment and hope so much it will stay that way. But, like you , the new normal is very hard to get used to. You have come to the right place to vent. Everyone hear will listen-at least for a place to view others opinions and get some feedback.
I pray that you get some relief from your inner pain and well as your outer pain. This thing is so mean and tough on a person. It takes everything you got to get through it and everybody you know helps you get throught it.
Take care and may you have peace
Debbie