Hi Brian I too got upset at one time because the truth hurts and thought that we were being critisized for the way we thought my husband should deal with surgery and such. After I wrote it I felt bad and I go to this web sight everyday and I can not tell you enough how your answers to questions people ask is important to all of us. It helped me as a caregiver and my husband cope and come to terms with many different treatments for my daughters sake, Daddy's Girl and my grandchildren. Your responses has made him think and has helped us through the hard times make a lot of decisions. Please do not go off the boards because your responses mean a great deal to us. These people that have a problem putting religion in perspective is dealing with a lot of denial and need to talk to a pastor or Bishiop of there faith. I am sure they would not want them medically untreated but that is something they have to be willing to do. I want to Thank you for all the help you have given me and my family and thank the other board members as well. As I said in one of my posts "The World is a stage,and the people merely actors'. If this is true,consider this: wouldn't life be better represented as a comedy rather than a sad drama." Thank you for reading this and I hope this helps.