I'm so sorry that your going through this...I am a pediatrician and I found the medical aspects (g-tube feed and trach care REALLY, REALLY hard). It also in some ways made it harder for my husband because he felt like I was an insider and more pushy at times about keeping up with meds, etc...He said taht he wanted to do things on his own and not have me treat him like a patient...so once I was sure that his depression was treated (zoloft and counselling), I help him by counting out meds, or leaving fresh water for flush, or other things taht would allow him to do some things but still get some help and STAY SAFE!!!

I think one of the hardest things for me has been the emotional and cognitive changes taht came w/ treatment...DO GET BETTER!!!!

Our oncologist calls it "chemo brain" and now my husband jokes about it and uses it as needed ;-)
As in "Whoops, forgot the milk...must be chemo brain."

Hang in there ... my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband...take care, Sara