I was at a HNC where the keynote speaker told us the 3 basic things that we all take for granted are speaking, swallowing, and breathing - until we have a problem with them. It's understandable that your Dad would have a panic attack with a new trach and I hope that he will use the medication as needed. He has a lot going on right now.

Saying I told you so is probably best not expressed in your outloud voice, just the one in your head. One of the ah ha moments I've had this year is realizing that not everyone wants to hear my truth when I'm saying it. We all hear when we're ready. Keep your own prescription filled, it comes in handy.

Regards JoAnne
PS Jack had a bell too