Hi,

My mom has oral cancer, on the tongue, less than 2 cm's, stage 2, waiting for an MRI and she only told me about this two days before meeting with an ENT....

..she later told my dad and my sisters, after meeting witht he ENT .. but i dont think she plans to tell anyone else, not even her own brother, sister, or dad ..and she even said to me last last nite that she doesn't want to tell anyone ...

...i dont know if thats a good thing, i've read a lot of places suggesting that a strong support system is needed ..and my mom is an amazing person, friends and family would line up to get her through this ...but i don't think my mom sees it like that..i think my dad has the same idea .. that if she tells others, people will start coming around and making her sad .. but i dont know,

any suggestions? thoughts?

thanks
H

the world brought me to my knees...
Update: Feb 10/08: Mom passed away on Jan 31,08 - infection (unknown) in her lungs with her weakened immune system resulted in cardiac arrest - T2NO SCC of tongue surgery 6/30/06, SCC left neck and lungs detected Sept 07, 7 weeks rad/3 rounds chemo had no effect.