Thanks, you guys. I agree. I have adopted the tough love approach. I have. It's in her hands, and there's nothing more I can do. I'm not discounting the severity of the disease, or the aggressive regimen, but I have met others that went through the same treatment that have survived and moved on. The place where she was treated is known for having a very aggressive protocol, but even her doctors have basically said she needs a good kick in the butt. Tonight I met some friends for dinner whom I haven't seen since my parents got sick. The first thing out of one of their mouths was that I didn't have gray hair the last time they saw me. I don't know if stress has anything to do with it, but it was another nudge that suggests I should start to live and enjoy a life for myself and let her try to do the same. Thanks again. Dave
Mom's caregvr. DDS failed to dx 01/03. Dx Stg IV SCC 05/03. Induct. chemo, IMRT, 5FU, H, Iressa, Neck disect, radiation. Dad's caregvr. Dx 01/04 Ext. Stg SCLC. Mets to liver/bone 08/04. Died 11/12/04. Mom tongue CA dx 06/13, hemiglossectomy (80% removed) 08/13. Clean margins and nodes, but PNI. 6/15/15: Tongue CA at base of remnant tongue. Declined further tx; hospice. Died 10/13/15. What a long and difficult journey.
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